Personal Troubles
Read if you want to hear a rant about my pathetic personal life.
I think it is a bit strange that I feel more comfortable talking about my personal life here than to people I know in my life. But here I go ranting along on AFF because I am not comfortable sharing my personal preferences like my obsession with SNSD, hidden lust for Taeyeon or the fact that I prefer women over men.
So because of this thing I have for women, I would say that makes me a horrible friend and I am bound to ruin friendships because of it. Sometimes I befriend girls because I think they are pretty or whatever and then fall for them (yea starting to sound like a fanfic here), but this isn't good. Most of my friends are straight and don't swing that way even though I wish they would. Then I get jealous and insecure which leads to me saying things that will eventually push that person away. Eventually that leaves me in complete and utter depression.
So here I go again on this same path. I did this before about 6-8 years ago with a friend. I really loved her a lot and it did lead to 'something' although I think she recepricated because she was that good of a friend. That was not a good way to do it...because it felt like I was lead on and then my fantasy crumbled when she was more blunt with me about how she was not that way and never would be. Our friendship took a lot of time to heal and now with her having a kid and with a stable boyfriend...well she and I are like ok but not close. (For those that read my fanfics, if you ever read Hot n Cold that was basically my struggles with her)
Second time I royally ed things up. I had a really good friend all through college and I really loved her too. But I would say stupid things and get insanly jealous although I had no right to be. She had a steady boyfriend and there was no way in hell I would be with her. She hid the fact that she didn't like the way I acted around her and just told me one day "I never really liked you" (as a friend). She got married and shortly after she wanted to cut all contact. That hit me so hard.
Third time happened recently. I was living overseas and fell for a girl I was playing tennis with. I would flirt and stuff and one night I was very close to making a move but I didn't. With her not speaking English well and stuff it was hard knowing if she did feel that way or not for me. I was talking to her last night (through messaging because she is still overseas and I am not anymore) and she said she noticed the flirting and it made her confused. I don't really know what that means because yet again her English problems could make that mean several things. She is never bluntly honest with me about things which makes it more confusing. I don't know what to think and I do what I always do in situations when I feel hurt or frustrated and that is push people away. She didn't do it but I am doing it because I am so tired of hurting. I feel like I am getting into this tunnel where I am forced to live in a life that makes me only experience one-sided love. To love and recieve that same love back is something I am sure we all long for. It is a theme in all my stories that I want to give because I think this is really something I can't have in my own life. I want to see that happy ending but I think I can only see it in my stories.
So here I am all depressed again because my life is lonely. Because I trapped in a life where I can't be open about who I am and what my needs are. Because I am a coward to face the world and show them I am a bit different. Here I am stuck in the same one-sided love.
Thank you for reading and comment if you please....although talking to myself is something I do often anyway.
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