Being Racially Unaccepted

So, I met this guy. We talked for a good while, and along the way of becoming friends, we ended up liking each other. It's ironic how we ended up liking each other, because we're complete opposites. I'm loud, obnoxious, and cheery, while he's shy, quiet, and laid back. Maybe it's the fact that he's so nice to me, or maybe it's the fact that he genuinely likes me, but I can't bring myself to simply leave. He tells me everything; anything that's bothering him. He tells me if I'm taking things too far, or if he's troubled. I realy like him, and I want to be with him, but not all good things last. 

My parents don't accept him because of his race. They've categorized him as an ignorant, uneducated, and uncontrolled savage due to his skin color. They won't even meet him, yet they're quick to judge him based off of men and women of his skin color who have been reckless. They don't understand that not everyone is the same. They talk about how you should accept everyone in your life like how God accepts every one of us, yet they will never accept him because of his skin color. 

It upsets me. It genuinely upsets me, because they don't care about how I feel. They don't care about meeting him, and then basing their judgment off his character. They only care about what their judgment is based off of other people of his color. It's racist. So racist, and it truly disgusts me. I've been raised by two racist people who consider themselves Christians, but sin. We all sin, I understand, but how can you judge someone based off of others? How utterly foolish and unfair is that? Extremely. I've cried enough hopeless tears, because I know for a fact that I will never be more than a crush to him, and him to me. 

I hope I will never raise my kids to only date a certain race. I will never in my life ever restrict them from loving someone because of their skin color. Beneath the skin, we all bleed the same. God created us equally, so what does it matter if I get hurt by a white man, or a black man? In the end, it's heartbreak. Just like how in the end, we all bleed. In the end, we all die. 

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TofuFaith
#1
damn. I'm really sorry. I wish the world were different. It really when our parents disappoint us. I feel you
sleepingprince
#2
I'm sorry to know that. I think its wrong to judged a person based on their race or skin colour or even appearance. One should really get to know them first. I think the both of you need to work hard to show to your parents about his good side and point . After all every parent wants the best for their child . Try make space and build a bridge for them to connect. Its important and i think its the only opportunity to convinced your parent to give him a chance. Have him to visit your parents when the right time comes , it would be great if he could make effort like texting your parents to wish them on their Birthdays , Parents Day and to just ask how they are doing. Simple kind gesturewith sincerity and honesty would definately touch their heart. He need to show to your parents that he's capsble of taking good care of you . He should also have a planning about the future if he's really to persue a serious relationship . Give your parents some time . Try have someone to convinced them as well like a person that your parents would trust example your church pastor and etc. You can also have him to be on good sides with your siblings so that they too could help out by talking good things to your parents . I think that way would be more convincing as your siblings too approve the relation. If you have your elders like grandparents then try talk to them it'l be easier if they could help you out .You can also use many good example of any mixed couple that you might know. Show to your parents how well they live and how happy they are. If you have any relative or mixed couple friends invite them over to your house and all. There's many ways and things that you can do to build trust . All it takes is effort , hard work and honesty. So talk to him and discuss what you guys should do. Slowly take one thing at a time. Dont push it too much just go with the flow and hopefully they'l learn to open their heart to accept your relation. Have faith and believe in yourself .