Pros/Cons of dating a kpop idol, rant-ish not really.
I always hear "Oh man, I would love to be with him" "I want oppa so bad" "Thats my future boyfriend/husband" "The love of my life" "He is such an amazing person".
Although the idea of dating a kpop idol may sound amazing, I came to put it in perspective for us International fans.
CONS:
1. Communication- We can't even speak to them. That is the biggest factor right there. Knowing the basic 'I love you' 'Youre the best' 'Fighting' 'Im sorry' and 'Are you okay?' is not going to get you far. Unless you get extensive learning for a few years to FULLY communicate to them, you'll be incredibly lonely.
2. Getting to REALLY know them- Most of the things we learn about our idols is what has come out of THEIR mouth, which means they can alter what they want to say. For example, I ing hate little kids but when someone asks me if I want any I say, "No, I want to focus on myself for a while". So for all we know, these boys that everyone googles over could be a crazy ert sick . I mean, do I have to mention Kim Hyun Joong?
3. Meeting their family- Now if you happen to surpass the two top, now you have to be introduced to the family. With personal experience and talk with a local Korean penpal of mine, she said majority of Koreans dont mind if their child dates a foreigner, but would like to them to marry a Korean. And as #1 goes, if you cant communicate with the family than everything is over with. If the mom doesnt approve, you're done.
4. Privacy- Sasaengs. All day, everyday. You're gonna receive SO much hate. That includes: mean comments, death threats, suicide petitions, stalking, and invasion of personal space and privacy. And because fans are delusional thinking that this one boy will pick them, they will go to the end of the Earth making sure you arent the one for him. & Not to mention, you'll never have time for dates unless youre out of country and in the middle of the night.
5. Hectic schedules- Come on, especially if you want someone from SM, you'll never see them. Three times a month is max unless theyre on hiatus. They'll be with the members in the studio, dance room, rehersals, or on a plane for a concert.
PROS:
1. Your boyfriend/girlfriend will be stunning and have a great job.
2. Sing for you
..... Thats about it.
I don't care who the person is. They are not worth my time and energy to be waiting around while they are doing their thing. I have school to go to, I have a job to work, a social life id like to keep, privacy to walk around the neighborhood. The cons out weight the pros and honestly the pros arent even great. What would the pro of dating a kpop idol be?
Like great, your boyfriend is a superstar that you never get to see and you'll be criticisezed and bullied to the point of tears. I mean, it's boohoo for the foreigner but no one gave a when Taeyeon cried because she wanted to be with Baekhyun. No one will care about you.
Your life will be lonely and if you have any dirty secrets, its all out in the open now.
This is why I dont understand why people bash idols for dating another idol. Like FIRST THING FIRST, they can manage all of the cons because THEY GO THROUGH WITH IT ALL THE TIME.
Most of yall cant even remember to do your homework and you want to manage a life around that type of crazy? Phew.
Im not saying its impossible, but that is a lot to put on your plate especially if youre a non-korean and have no idea what youre getting into.
Go to school, get a job, remember to wipe, pay your taxes, and dont do meth. That is how your life should be. No where should it be: Go to school, go to work, contact Suho, wait 4 hours for him to replay a sentence reply, continue to work, be verbally attacked by a fan, have something thrown at you, write in your schedule Suho's days off and scheduleing, make dinner, eat alone cuz he is probably dieting, wait until 3am to go on a date, fall asleep half on your date, go home and sleep, and get up and repeat, but more than likely you wont see Suho again for a few more weeks so, Skype calls and Kakao messages.
That life is boring and I hope you all realize that is not the way to live. If he is not benefiting you in any way then kick him to the curb. Find a Korean American who is good looking, has a good job, WHO YOU CAN TALK TO, and see him every other day.
What sounds more likely to be a better option?
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