I think I'm having depression. Help please :(

It just recently happened to me when all of the sudden, I felt so sad. Because of everything. And it happen again right now. I cried because I noticed that among all of my friends, I'm the only one single and like, seriously single as in no one is hitting on me. I've never been in relationship before.. I know, this sounds childish and ridiculous, but when i overly thinking about this, questions like "am I thaaaat ugly?" And "am I that undesirable?" Arose. I think that i am on the average side, not thaaaaat pretty but hey, i'm not ugly either. I'm easy going, friendly and yeah, I can easily make friends anywhere. But this stuff, It makes my self esteem slumped so bad that I don't have the courage to meet people and all that even my best friend. I pretend to be all strong and fine all this time but right now, I'm suffering... I used to be okay with this kind of issue back then but as I'm getting older, this really bug me to death. Anyone having the same problem right now? I'm scared that this will effect me someday. Only god knows what will happen if this continue :(

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sleepingprince #1
I think the right one will come when its meant to be. There's no rush and you shouldnt be too worried about it. Just have more confidence in yourself. Embrace your inner self and your'l see the true beauty in you .
MissMinew #2
If questions like those arise when you're overthinking you have got to stop overthinking. And yes, it's hard. You have self esteem, you just said you're not ugly - so stop thinking something is wrong with you. You're outgoing (or so it seems) so stop thinking that a partner is what defines you - it's not. It doesn't matter whether you're single or not - it does not make you any less of a person.
So instead of isolating yourself when you have bad days (all humans do, it's perfectly normal) - talk to your friends. They're your friends because they like you. Tell them it's a ty day and you feel bad that no ones hitting on you - I believe they'll tell you that you're lovely no matter what.
And for the love of God, stop thinking of it as a depression. It's bad days, stupid thoughts and a real cruel cycle but if it's once in a while - talk to your friends and your family and try to prevent the actual depression. No reason to make it any worse. (And yes, it is easy to say).
The way you address your problems are important so choose your words with care - even if it feels ridiculous.
And I hope you know that you're not a bad human because you don't have a partner or have ever been in a relationship. It's okay. You're absolutely okay. Believe in you - a partner doesn't necessarily last a lifetime but you do. You're stuck with yourself for the rest of your life. You're fine. Believe it. :)
Hayagi #3
Hey, don't worry ^^ I know enough people who thought that they'd be forever alone or that no one would like them, but eventually they found their special person :) I don't know how old you are, but I don't think it's weird if you've never been in a relationship in your teens. Not at all.
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