Alright so......

I ended reconnecting with an old friend from high school who I haven't spoken to in over 3 years. When we met my freshman year, he liked me but I never felt attracted to him and was doing my own thing back then cuz I was dealing with a breakup then. He ended up dating a mutual friend and I am very committed to the girl code of "You can't date your friends EX". 

Even though they aren't together anymore and she is no longer my friend, I know what they've done and it just grossed me out xDD

He ended up dating another girl for 4 years and they recently broke it off. I figured that he would be chilled out and just trying to do him and his feelings for me were gone...... WRONG.

I'll type out our exact convo ;;A;;

So we started talking about our old nicknames we use to give each other and stuff. He use to call me mouse because my voice is pretty high and whenever I got uncomfortable I would squeak when I talk. It use to irritate me so I called him BUG= Big. Ugly. Giant xDD

Me: "I wouldn't forget your nickname!" "Did you forget that acronym for BUG?"

Him: " I forgot, must have been mean"

Me: "Big ugly giant"

Him: "Yup! right in the balls"

Me: "HAHAHAHAH"

Him: "But i'd do me so thats alright!"

Me: "Hahahahahah!"

Him; "If I remember correctly, there was a time when you were going to give me a chance. So either you have terrible standards or Im not as ugly as you give me credit for" "And  Im normal, you're the short one!"

/ I have standards/ xD

Me: "I thought about it, but then you dated Kas and I don't date people my friends dated." "Also during that time, I was coping with my own breakup so I didn't want to be bothered".

Him: "Yeah yeah yeah, I know. Im still hitting on you a bit so I need to curve my tendancies. You're a hell of a friend. If a little y ;)"

Me: "Yeah xD It still aint working Hahahah. & Nothing wrong with a lil sass"

// I was hoping this would give him a CLEAR sign that I was still not interested//

Him: "Well if I hadn't noticed lol. So sue me for trying lol I thought w e woulda done alright"

// I wanted more of an explanation because I didn't think the same//

Me: "You think so?? because I thought the exact opposite lolol"

Him: "Yes I really do. I can sure as hell call you a friend"

/ I tried to end it by telling him that I am moving in a semester two hours away for school because I know how clingy he is when he dates so I thought he would realize that and stop./

Me: "Well don't get your hopes up because I am moving to Mesa in a semester for school."

Him: " So lol? I got a car"

// We had a convo the previous night when he was going to hang out with old HS friends of ours that he said his car is a piece of and that if his car ends up at a red light for over 2 minutes, his car will shut down//

Me: "That you said doesnt work!! HAHAHA"

Him: "Psssssh! It could work >___> If I wanted it to"

Me: "Hahahahah~ Well obviously it didn't when you went to go hang out with Danielle!"

Him: "Ha! Well you're making excuses. I will move mountains to make work. I have before and for you, I would do it again" "So you know.... just sayin"

/ I thought that was cute, but I still wanted to make it CLEAR/

Me: "I'll keep that in mind"

Him: "Hey you didn't just snipe me in the head :D I'll take that as progress"

//No.... please dont take that as progress//

Me: "Hahaha~ Well like I said, don't get your hopes up because I also am planning on going overseas for my internship and do quite a bit of traveling"

Him: "It sounds like a cool idea that I support 100%. And I wouldn't want in any way want to hold you back. Just seems silly to throw away something that could end up being a pretty cool thing. For ever how long that may be"

Me: "I'm gonna go to try and go to Australia for my internship and from there go other places"

Him: "Well studying there isn't living there, you'll have to comeback &&Im also planning on going back to Canada" "I'm not going to be your anchor on your life. As a friend or more."

Me: "Haven't you planned on going to Canada for like 4 years now?"

/We started talking about our career goals and stuff cuz I wanted a change of subject and I told him that I wanna work with animals and go overseas and work and stuff/

Him: "I would love to travel. I never really thought about it before, but it appeals to me. Short term anyways. I definitely want to settle down eventually." "So I get that you wanna travel and do things and stuff" "I was kinda hoping to be apart of that as well if thats even possible. I never want to be your anchor, but maybe just support".

/I was like BRUH. There is a time for ENTERTAINMENT TRAVELINGS and a time for WORK TRAVELING. I aint going places for amusement. I aint gonna let you follow me around the world for you to "help" It isnt volunteering LOL./ // I tried to scare him off//

Me: "If you don't mind going to Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia, and Korea~"

Him: "If you don't mind that I can't speak any of those, but I could pick up some on the way~"

//I tried to change the subject again and he brought it back up 20 minutes later//

Him: "So I don't want to mess things up with us. It would be ed if I lost you as a friend again. BUUUUT theres a really good chance in my opinion that if we make this into something, it could last a long time and go really well. And I have a good track record with my feelings about things."

// I was done//

Me: "John! I don't have time to date and get myself caught up in in love and stuff. I need to focus on my education and career. I don't want to be tied down."

Him: "Remember that whole thing about being an anchor? I meant that. I will never tie you down. Also as a note, what we have right now is not that far off from just being together. So don't think it would tie you down. I would never ask for you to abandon your education for me, but I respect your decision. I just hope you'll think about it." "Life is complicated. You'll either find time or there will never be any time." "Hey. Im Sorry. I know you haven't been with someone in a long time. It was wrong of me to push. I just wanted to discuss it. I have my answer"

// At this point, I was like "Do I have myself my own sasaeng?!" "Is this what idols feel like when girls try to get with them?" He didn't even give me time to respond before he bombarded me with messages lol//

Me: "I respect your decision, but you rushed into this so fast after reconnecting after 4 years. It was too soon for you to do that."

Him: "Yeah I know. Just feelings and stuff. It doesn't matter. I have you as a friend and I'm happy, so I'll leave it at that".

Me: "Thanks. Thats all I ask"

Him: "You know, you're cooler than you give yourself credit for"

// The convo just went down hill and just gradually stopped when I told him I was skyping with a friend && JUST NOW. He is messaging me//

Him: "Good morning!" "Andy~ I'm sorry about yesterday!! I've been feeling like an all day." "The guilt!! it hurts! ow"

At this point I dont really know what I to say to him. I'll probably just be like "Smeh, whatever. Lets forget about it. 

I just wanted to show you how I have my own little sasaeng. Not even sure if you would consider this a sasaeng..... or desperate.....

idk...

I'm still a little hesitant to tell him "Yo~ I dont like white guys" xDD Better not say anything~

I'll update yall if he continues~

Have you guys had something like this before? How did you handle it?