Mistaking Attachment for Love

This is PATHCODE KYUHYUNWIFEY.

You don't need to guess anything. It's just a clue for my future here in AFF.

Attachment is poisonous, and it kills love. When a person is attached, he tends to possess, to imprison the other, but to love is free. People who are attached cling to the idea that we only feel loved if we control the situation because we are afraid that the other may leave. The ego possesses the other and kills him, when in fact, love gives life to the other (Rajneesh 1975:173-175)

The person who is attached is afraid of rejection, afraid that the other might change, might be seduced by another. Love is not possible because fear in attachment compels the attached to build walls, impose rules and harbor doubts. We think that it is love when we control the situation. We think it’s love when we simply follow the rules, but in reality, not saying no is a lack of dignity on the person’s part. Love has dignity.

Sooooooo.

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sarangDB5K #1 Jun 3, 2015 10:59:52

this is the answer I've been looking for my fic... I was wondering why my character is so attached to the lead male (it's my story XD) but then I finally realized it. thank you for the inspiration :)

hwaayoung #2 May 1, 2015 13:34:58

Do i smell a new fic? Perhaps kai *___*

TheJayWalker #3 Apr 22, 2015 13:39:20

Shoes ko, Zitao na ba to? HA-HA-HA :( Comfort me po T_T

polarlightnoona #4 Apr 20, 2015 20:28:28

It's actually true, attachment makes you possessive of someone but sometimes it also tiring specially if there is jealousy in it. The feeling is heavy TT
this is really interesting, it somehow enlighten me. Thank you very much ouo

ojgjgofgjs #5 Apr 19, 2015 08:31:56

are you implying that you're leaving aff? D:

parkhayoung #6 Apr 19, 2015 04:30:33

Gosh, this is so true. Attachment make people afraid that something might change I'm the relationship. And because of that fear people tend to do anything to protect their so called 'love' in any way possible.

RoseIsMyName #7 Apr 19, 2015 01:40:57

Ohh interesting!!!

Mythiel #8 Apr 19, 2015 00:51:36

Attachment is also tiring because it is often tied with fear and jealousy