Sometimes, parents are just..

-angry rant ahead-

 

So I just got my high school results yesterday, and I got accepted to two schools. One specialized, and the other is a regular high school. Which one do I want to go to? The regular one, because I got into the program I wanted (humanities). The specialized one mostly focuses on math, science, and engineering.

I'm actually interested in humanities. Not looking at the schools' reputations and what they have to offer, I'd obviously choose humanities. My parents are against the idea though. Okay so one is specialized and the other isn't. And? Does it matter about the reputation when it lacks what I'm interested in? I cannot go through four years of high school studying something I don't want to and I'm not going to force myself to just because my parents care about reputation.

But does my opinion matter? No, because apparently "I don't know what's good for me. I don't know what I want." Obviously, my parents know me more than me. "I'm too young to know" Does age have anything to do with this? Alright, they may be wiser, but I'm pretty sure I know what I want. I can't stand science and math is only slightly better. My dad knows that so well too. My parents know. It shows in my grades.

I'm not a puppet. I'm not going to go around doing what they tell me to do. I have to make my own choices. Why can't they just respect my choice? I made it based on what I'm interested in. Why can't they? My dad was telling me that the specialized has more choices for me to choose from and the other one only has one. Um okay. Great, they have a variety. But why does a variety matter if I got accepted into a program that I truly like and is interested in?

My brother goes to the specialized one and I asked him which school he thought I would prefer. He said that he doesn't think I would like his school. He gets it. 

So I don't want to live the life that my parents want me to live. But at least I know what I'm interested in. They're telling me to spend the next four years of my life doing something I know I would hate. My college would be based on my high school, so basically, I'd be living the life they want. It's not the life I want. If I don't start making my own decisions now, how do they expect me to ever? I'm going to be too used to them making my choices for me and I'm going to find it hard to be independent. 

My mom practically planned for me to go to the specialized high school and study to become a nurse in the future. She was telling me how one of her friend's daughters got into the specialized high school and is now in a college at Boston to become a nurse. Great, but what does that relate to me. My mom was talking as if she knew what I would want. I can't ever imagine myself as a nurse. As a kid, I've been interested in many different professions, and a nurse has never once crossed my mind. People can continue living a fantasy dream in their mind, but they can't expect life to happen the way they planned it to.

 

This blog post has gotten way too long and honestly, I'm too tired right now to continue. Physically and mentally. I'm tired of fighting just because I have my own choices. I'm sorry I have opinions just like everyone else in the world. -.- 

 

I'm not going to go into detail, but I got into a fight with my dad over this high school crap and I left. I wasn't being rude, I just got really pissed and I knew I'd start crying if I didn't leave yet. (I ended up crying anyway.) I'm just hiding in my room right now, trying to distract myself and get help with this. I can't even go outside and talk to my dad (or even see him) without crying again. Even just thinking about the fight from earlier got me in tears. The thing is, I'm not even sad. I'm beyond pissed at my dad. My brother told me that my dad said he's fine with me going to wherever, but the transportation is not convenient. When I went to speak with my dad, he was really unsupportive. I didn't expect it from him, I thought it would be from my mom. I wasn't prepared for it, and I think that's why I'm so mad. 

 

If any of you have ideas for me, I'm open to anything. I'm so tired from this I'm about to give up. I hate being this mad at something like this. 

 

*sorry if this was really negative. I was being openly honest in this and I just..I really needed to let my emotions out.

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Kai-chan #1
I feel like everyone in their last year of highschool feel like this.Well,I do too.rather,I used to feel so.
I'm in my third year of high school and the only thing I like is literature (any language but mostly english) but both me and my parents know it's the wrong choice.why? because we live in a country where literature is so not appreciated and english is not even our second language.and I know I'll suffer a lot if I follow that stream so I'm sort of neutral now.mom says I should study medicine,and I'm considering it,though in the past I would've refused.
anyway,I can't judge neither you or your parents,It's true people should do what they like,but consider the options after it.will it lead you somewhere? will you work hard on it? will it make you happy?
if you answer them all 'yes',then you can do what you want.
ohmygoshwhy #2
DUDE. I understand you perfectly. I have been in the same situation but with different things. (Talking about jobs/college etc.) I guess I'm lucky though because my mom now understands that I know myself and that I have a vision for what I want my life to be. And frankly, as long as I don't do anything immoral, my dad doesn't really care.

It takes some work to try to get your point across to your parents. Lord knows how many fights I've gotten into with my parents because of difference of opinion. But just keep at it. Try to tell them what you want, why you want that, and maybe how you see how your life will be years from now. Tell them that you understand that life isn't going to be smooth sailing, but you really want to do something involving humanities and that the school that you've chosen gives you a better chance at that. And hey, if everything goes wrong, you can still change what you want to do in college. Good luck! :)
its_angel #3
i understand you. my parents want me to have a career in the medical field, and i respect that, but sometimes, i feel like i won't make it. and that disappoints me so much because i want my parents to be proud of me and say "look, this is my daughter! she went to this school and became a doctor!" i've talked to both of my parents about this and we made a compromise. i said that i would like to enter the medical field, but not specifically a doctor, possibly a pharmacist or something like that.

I feel like you should choose what you would like to study because if you do something that you're not interested in and don't have your 100% effort in it, you would just come to a point where you don't want to go to school since it's so pointless doing something you don't like. you should talk to your parents and tell them that it would definitely make you happy if you got to attend a school that had your interest.

the only way you would focus and study well, is to attend a school of your own interest, because in the future, it's going to be you that is going to lead your own life, not your parents, they should be your support and backbone.
BitterLips #4
Hey, I don't know you personally -- I just came across this blog because I follow you but still. I felt a very close connection with your current situation. To be honest, last year I took my high school acceptances exams and after some interviews, I got accepted into the school I wanted to be in, which was a vocational-technical high school. I wanted to take a culinary course in that high school because I'm seriously interesting in baking and cooking, aside from Kpop, lol. My parents applied me for other schools in case I didn't get accepted into one or the other, and the next thing I know -- My mom sits me down at Panera and tells me that I got accepted into this "college preparatory school" that is also a charter school. A "win-win" situation, she said. Yet, was this what I wanted? The school my mom and my dad wanted me to go to had no courses which I liked, and did not involve any culinary hands-on whatsoever.

But, in the end, I went to that school -- Only because they made a compromise (I bought an Attack On Titan cosplay jacket lol) and they told me this: The said that although I might not go to the high school that I want to -- It all comes down to college. They said that if I do well in this high school I could have the opportunity to get accepted into culinary colleges. That's what really hit me.

Now, even though I know that there is nothing more fun than a culinary-centered course, I'm still getting through the school I am in now. And it's not that bad, actually -- I've made a handful of friends. ^^ What I'm trying to say is -- Don't give up! Try to find yourself around the situation and if you can't then do your best at that dreadful school and show them what you can do! Do your best and then when you've matured (or at least when your parents have 'think' you've 'matured'.) you should try explaining what you really want as a future occupation.

By then, I think they'll understand. And I mean, it's YOUR job. Do something that you love! HWAITING!
kimsfangirl #5
We are more or less in the same shoes... the difference is I'm also interested in my mom's choice. I wanna be a doctor, true. But my priority list is to be an actress. And...my parents don't approve it.
I don't know exactly about what your parents think... but maybe they concern about your future career... why don't you ask them the reason why they don't let you go to the school you want? They must have a reason aside from they want you to go to medical school..
VariableBread #6
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that :( I'm in the process of hearing back from colleges right now about whether or not I got in, and I guess we'll see whether or not my parents try to influence where I go. They made me apply to a few places that I didn't really want to, but (fortunately) I'm pretty sure they'll leave the final choice up to me.

And there's no problem with ranting or being negative! I think people appreciate when you open up to them and let them get to know you a little bit better :) I hope everything works out! ^^
Faraakim #7
I'm in a situation like yours too..i really wanted to go into masscomm vourse but my parents are against it. So yeah, basically being the chicken daughter i am, I just go with it.

But my advice is don't choose over something that you don't like! Never! Cause you will not like it and your grades are not getting better to. Its because you didnt enjoy it. You're just doing it to pass, not to enjoy. Haha i hope u understand what im trying to say ^^ convince your parents alright? : )
oppach #8
i'm not sure what sort of career choices there are for humanities. Is that perhaps what your parents are concerned about? us parents sometimes get caught up in our dreams for our kids. my son and i often clash because i know he could be getting spectacular grades and he's too lazy to do it. my stepson ended up in the military and that is so NOT what i wanted for him. but as i learned from my mom, your kids get to the point where you can tell them what you want, but that's all you can do. you have to let them go and be adults.
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