I need help :/

Okay, basically, me and this guy are really, really good friends, though we've known each other only six months, and we're so close to the point that people have asked us if we were dating, because we're always hanging out in school, despite being in different classes. Of course, we're not :P

Let's call him Taehyung, and true to the real Tae's name, this guy is an attractive idiot xD 

And though he's older than me, he's in a younger class (I skipped a grade, anyway...)
This guy is really sweet but he can be a total douche at times. But that didn't stop us from being friends.

So last Friday, I find out that this guy has a thing for one of my classmates. I told one of his classmates and in the utmost secrecy, we started speculating which girl it might be, and it always ended up coming back to ME. And I kept denying the possibility of it being me, until one of my friends somehow managed to figure out that I had feelings for this guy and made me admit it to him (not to the guy i sorta may have not really liked)

So today, I kept pestering him to tell me who this girl was. And in the end, he gave in and told me that it was another of my classmates. And for some wild reason, while I was extremely relieved, I was also... disappointed. I don't know why. 

Another friend told me that it was alright, that he was a douchebag who cared solely about looks, and she made me feel better by saying that Tae would've never asked me out even if he did like me because he doesn't have the balls to (gotta love her for that (":)

I don't know if it's okay to feel slightly disappointed. Of course, I never really liked him until he told me about his crush and for some reason, I was getting all worked up about him not telling me (hidden feelings coming to life? idk.) but I never really had strong feelings for him so I can put this at the back of my mind easily. I feel conflicted for feeling like this, for feeling so bad for a guy who's obviously a douche but still nice, and i just don't know how to feel anymore. For some reason, I keep falling for the wrong guys, and it's just plain annoying to the point where I've considered not having feelings at all. 
ANYWAY, me and the guy are still friends, although he doesn't know how I felt (and he never will :P), so yay...

I don't know... what would you have felt? Or done? I really don't know anymore :|
Sowwie for making you read bull about my life, i think I'm done...

P.S. I feel better writing this so if you make it to the end, yay :3

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cheesecakebunny #1
Well, you might feel upset at first, but then slowly you'd feel it was because you're with him for like literally every time. You should be okay you deserve someone better girl. FIGHTING~!! You'll be okay, I've experienced something similar with this before and I'm okay! Cheer up~
DGNA_Forever #2
Oh my...I'm so sorry you're having problems. You deserve better than that, and I think you're a beautiful person, no matter what anyone else says. Keep your chin up and know that you are loved<3.
amazingmyza #3
Hi haruharu. Long time no see you dear. Hmmm. i've been in the same situation as you. We should keep calm in this situation. Seriously. If you're keep thinking about the girl that he likes and once you know the truth, you might get hurt. My suggestion is that just keep your friendship with him until he tell you the truth (whether he really liked you or another girl) . Once you know the truth and you might think that you won't be able to face him anymore, i suggesting you slowly get out from his life. Remember, this is the last option if you really think you can't face the fact that he liked someone else. Otherwise, just keep your friendship.

I had a friend who I'm really close with. We starting getting close to each other after high school even though we're not close before. We're so close to the point he always said that he'd be lucky if he had me as his wife. Sometimes he also called me darling, honey something like that. Because his action and his words i got confused whether i had feelings for him or not. until one day, he lost his father, sister and lil brother in an accident.

Till one day, he asked to meet me. I was so nervous, thought that he might want to confess or saying anything serious. Since i never went out alone with a guy, i brought my two friends. He was shocked when he meet me and after the meeting, he texted me asking why i bring along my friends. after that, he never contact me. Now, he already has girlfriend and we started keep in touch but not close as before.

Maybe that's my fault for not giving him chance to say whaf he wanna say that day and whenever i asked him about that he will always try to find an excuse. And i never know what he wanted to tell me.

But i'm just glad that we're friends right now and i'll always pray for his happiness.

Sorry for having you read my story too but i think you can take something from this.
JunSeobie #4
I've been through same hell too.. I had this guy friend we would spent hours together everyday to the point that our friends, my friends and his friends thought that we were dating.. of course we were not. time passed, and I think I had a feeling for him but I kept quiet about it.

then storm hit, he told me that he was liking a girl and she turned out to be my own friend! How could he do that?

so, I couldn't hold my feeling any longer, I came to tell him what I really felt at that time. I told him that I liked him and I didn't like that he was close to another girl, especially my own friend. at first he told I was just being silly, and said "yeah okay, Im not gonna get close to another girl".

we were back again to normal, until I heard his friends about the girl he liked, the same girl who was my friend, so I asked him if he still kept contact with her, and he said yes. Unbelievable. that day I was so angry that I had to ask him either to choose me or her. I think he knew at that moment that I really had a feeling for her. tho he said he chose me, I didn't believe him. and I was right, he is dating that girl now.
he destryed everything. he ruined my life, he ruined my friendship with that girl, he ruined our own friendship..

so yeah, when he chose that girl, I made a promise to myself that I would leave him. so I left him, and never contacted him or her anymore. I would look away if we met at school, I would never speak of his name again. I deleted all of his contacts, phone number, email, facebook, I even blocked his twitter. I warned him that if he chose that girl, he'd lose me. and he's losing me now.

now I learn something important, I should never fall for someone before they fall for me first, because loving first hurts :(

I'm sorry that I talk too much in your comment, but like you, I just wanna share what I have felt before.
Eezabelle #5
Maybe it's just cause you got your hopes up about him liking you.
kimmykwon #6
Stuff happens ^^ and I would've been disappointed too. Right now I would suggest to just keep doing whatever makes you feel most comfortable (which is most likely letting it go as normal). If for some reason this douchebag is your soulmate, or something of the sort, he'll come back to you in the end. If he isn't, then rejoice! Honestly, what's a dude without balls anyway? Literally good for nothing.
KeyShawol #7
It's alright to feel that slight disappointment. We all get excited with the possibility that someone might like us. Just be normal from now on. You guys are great friends and that's enough. And about not having feelings, it's not that easy. You're still young, and feelings are inevitable. Also, boys are immature and shallow at this age. You shluld t focus too much or stress about boys right now, save that for later when boys understand real feelings.
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