Coming Out

Guys, I really want some advise.

October 11 is coming out day, and I want to come out as bi and crushing on CL and this girl who works near me...I am honestly rarified though, even though I talked to my mom about it about 6 months ago. It was an uncomfortable conversation, in which I was basically told I wasn't bi. I don't think she can really know though, because, yeah-Girls get me hot and bothered. Is that weird? No. It's just me.

I want to do it properly, I want to tell my dad, and my best friend. I want my brother to stop asking questions about gays, and saying I am lying when I say a man can really marry a man and a woman can do the same. I want to stop feeling like an intruder when people I know make comments about gays, but don't seem to realize that I don't find it funny,

I know that o am making it really complicated and it's jut as simple as standing up on Saturday night and saying 'I'm gay. Love me or leave me.' but it doesn't feel that way. I feel like I might throw up, as I want to do this so much. What if I fall in love with a guy, and all the commotion was for nothing? What if I am just really confused? I don't know what to think of it anymore.

My little sister told me to do it as a joke, but I want to do it for real. I feel like I am lying to my friends when I don't, like I am an imposter.

I think I'll go on the 'Dont ask, don't tell' policy. It seems safest, but one day, I'll meet a homophobe and I'll be sad and scared and broken. I know I will, and that thought scares me.

What do you guys think?

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Kpopandjrocklover567 #1 Oct 10, 2014 18:59:23

I want you to be happy, but if you don't feel safe saying it to anyone you know stick to the "better safe then sorry" policy okay.
I am also Bi so I understand what you are going through, but my parents have been accepting of me. I hope your family will come to accept you are bi. Good luck Rouge-chan remember I am here for you.

TaemintTriskelion #2 Oct 9, 2014 02:30:47

I honestly feel as though you have to do what makes you happy but also what keeps you safe. If you don't feel like your family will be accepting of your uality, maybe it's best to stick with the "Don't ask, don't tell" policy... Maybe come out to people who you trust won't take it badly and won't mock you for it to begin with? If a few people who you trust know, it might make the situation easier on you :)

Thats just my two cents and experience with coming out :'3

iya_007 #3 Oct 9, 2014 02:09:14

I think u just have to be ur self.....do whatever makes u happy.....its ur life....not them.....u have right to be happy.....no one can take it away from u.....u only live once.....so use it wisely :D