HELP ME WITH MY PROBLEM

What will you do if one of your male lecturer or teacher, keep bothering you with message and call when they have no important stuff to say to you... And also he's ing married and have child already... Its bothering me so much... I feel uncomfortable with all this stuff but, I can't say that I don't like if he does not bothering me with unimportant stuff or conversation because he's ing lecturer... Aish, STRESS... I meet this ing lect in one of my University activity that we as student must attend it or we'd be fail to graduate... He's the lect in charge of my group... Turns out, he works as a caunsellor in Psychology in my U... At first, he ask me for help to be his client because who wants to go to caunsellor and tell your deepest secret or maybe your problem when you've friends to do it... Eventhough sometimes your friend idea of solving your problem is , at least your friends could make you happy and laugh and forget your problem for awhile... And then, after that, he keeps on bothering me... I don't know how to tell him not to bother me anymore in a good manner and not hurting his heart... Could anyone help me?? Please help me... xoxoxoxo

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anthealkl #1 Aug 30, 2014 01:41:17

Some people are like that, take my form teacher for example. They mean no harm really, they are just insecure in nature

NightOwl14 #2 Aug 30, 2014 01:25:56

Ignoring him can work, but it can also make things worse. I suggest being straightforward if the ignoring thing doesn't work. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable receiving messages that have no connection to school. If he doesn't listen or the actions don't change, talk to an adult (a parent or family member) or someone you can trust that you know can put an end to his actions. In these situations you need to think about how you feel and about your safety first. Don't be shy or feel bad for hurting his feelings. Like EJ said, you respect yourself. Hope everything turns out well :]

AyuYeoL #3 Aug 30, 2014 01:15:55

Oh my.. that .. I know that feeling..
In uni u must have a good relationship for your grade and that must be hard for you.. I think you better slow talk with him if that possible. He might want to befriend you but you can say that u're uncomfortable with him. He wouldn't be able to force u for that.. if u couldn't, u better ask someone else to talk to him. If thing go worse, u better report it..

LIUtheSONE #4 Aug 30, 2014 01:02:29

tell you problem to a adult whom you trust alot and talk about what you should do you will feel better if you tell someone :)

ElleJacobs #5 Aug 30, 2014 00:24:26

I'm really blunt so, IMO it shouldn't matter if you :hurt his heart". The best way to do it is either be straightforward and tell him you're uncomfortable with him calling you or ignore his calls until he gets the hint. It's not always a good thing to be a nice person. Some people misunderstand and others use it against you. You have to be tough. Respect yourself and don't be afraid to defend yourself and speak your mind.