I hope I didn't offend anyone when I commented that Park Shin Hye is high maintenance.  I meant it in a positive way.

In my last update I had noted that Park Shin Hye is a high maintenance girl.  I didn't think anything of it until I was sitting around the breakfast table with my family and my mom told my relatives that I was a high maintenance girl.  One of my male cousins made a comment about how he would never date a high maintenance girl because they are money-grubby, vain, and needy. None of which I thought I was and none of which my parents thought either when they described me as high maintenance.  Then I thought of my comment about Park Shin Hye.  I didn't think she had any of the qualities that my cousin described either.

So...here I am...

Being a high maintenance girl has such a negative connotation, but in my family it's a positive adjective.  Ever since I was young, my mom and dad had always told me to be a princess because I am their princess.  If I want something, go for it or ask for it.  They, of course, reserved the right to say no.  I'll admit to being very spoiled but I don't think my parents would have let be me rotten.  My whole family, for that matter, wouldn't let any of us kids be rotten.

Here's how my mother described high maintenance.  Believe in yourself.  You are unique and special.  Like who you are and never be afraid to ask for what you want.  Mom and Dad will always be there for you if you stumble.  Treat people how you want to be treated. 

This is my dad's add-on.  You define you...others do not define you.  If a boy/man (I've had this bit of wisdom since I was six) doesn't treat you like your dad treats you or even better, then he's not the boy/man for you (I screwed up on this one in my first year of college, but I eventually recovered).

I hope my fanfic Shin Hye doesn't offend anyone.  I see her as a positive role model, especially for my younger readers.  I never use to be so sensitive about other people's opinion until I started writing fanfics.  Sometimes I think I should just stop writing fanfics since it makes me so obsessive and sensitive...but then again I think that fanfics needs stronger female leads.

hugs, kit_kat