I Need Someone Who Can Relate To Me

It's been awhile since I've posted a blog post, but this time I really want to talk to you guys and speak my mind. Please do read this because I would really appreciate your help.

 

I've came accross a person here who seemed friendly at first. We talk a little and  she seemed nice. But then she brought up the fact that they didn't accept the homouality because it was the complete opposite of what she believes in. I guess it has to do with religion or something related to that. If she happens to be reading this, I'm not trying to call her out or any way. I completely respect her opinions and her beliefs.

 

Now the part that bothers me is the logic she was using trying to confront me. If you knew someone was gay, it would obviously be very wrong to try to be friends with them and then bring up the fact that you don't accept homouality and be so casual about it. I usually don't care if somebody tells me that I'm a sin to god or other disrespectful stuff, I could honestly care less because I'm proud of who I am. But now that someone's trying to be friendly and would bring that up, I'm quite offended by that.

 

I am offended in many ways. As a gay male (I'm sure all you boys out there can relate to me) you want to fit in with everyone else. You may or may not mind to be seen like all the other guys: strong and manly. You want to be treated equally with everyone else and you want others to see you like they see everyone else. We are obviously different and we are seen in a diffrent light than everyone else. It's something that we all have to deal with but it's difficult because there are people out there that constantly remind you that you're different and just want to put you down.

 

If you are straight and you are trying to be friendly to a gay person, you shouldn't have to remind them that they're gay, because it's obvious that we already know ourselves. Even if you don't accept homouality you can at least be respectful and keep those thoughts to yourself. When you're saying those kind of stuff, we may not show it but we are deeply hurt in the heart.

 

In conclusion, I just wanted to say that we all want to fit in, but we are all different. Not only gay people can relate to this, anyone can. To bring up someone's flaws like for example: "You're so fat", "You're so skinny", "You're teeth are not straight" or "You have a lot of pimples", it's really mean because we're all aware of it and we already aren't too fond of it. So why bring it up? It's basically meaningless.

 

If there are any guys or girls out there reading this and can relate to how I feel, please do comment down below, I really want your input on it and how you deal with it. Thank you for listening to me.

 

-Ken <3

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KimikoLuvTeenTop #1
You shouldn't have to be around someone who gives u negative feelings! If she can't accept a part of who you are you will keep feeling negative things around her and that isn't ok. Her religion isn't an excuse. Its still up to her, accept you fully and you might become friends, or if she can't it might me time to say goodbye? Like you said you respect her, but she has to respect you too. If she did respect you she shouldn't have told you about it, she could have just been quiet about it and tried to overlook it.

Im not the one to tell you what to do but if it was me I wouldn't want to be around a person who makes me feel bad.

I hope things turn out well for you! Focus on the people who fully accepts you ^^ ❤️
Emmatotally #2
First of all she wasn't your friend in the first oppa. If her religion says not to accept it then she shouldn't have approached you in the first place. My best friend is gay and I will do everything in my power to protect him from bullies or anything and even though we haven't met in real, I would still jump people who try to bully you I know your older but you're still awesome. Oppa, fighting!! Love you.
beke_d #3
I have a strong dislike for people like that.I'm fully Christian born and raised, but I find how they don't treat everyone the same disgusting, you're human and you have to follow your heart not what everyone else thinks is "right" (there's nothing that really is right). YOU LIVE TO BE YOU NOT ANYONE ELSE!!!

Because you're proud of who you are and own, is just proving people like your friend how wrong they are, they should accept you the way you are and if they let things like religion get inbetween "friendship" it's not really friendship to me.
illuminousink #4
Well first of all, implications of uality doesn't just pop out like a mushroom. It doesn't suddenly pop out and convince someone that they are gay, lesbian, biual or what. NO! uality is something that we all learn through self-awareness. It is NEVER a sin to be yourself. It hurts to know that people still put out requirements out there. It's BS. Friends are supposed to be there to stand beside you no matter what the F is wrong with you. No matter what your flaws are , or whatever you are. That's why they are friends. You cant really label someone as a friend if they require you to be who they want you to be. Those people should learn to accept instead of pushing their ideals onto another person. Sorry but this post really made me stupidly angry for some reason. I hate people who try to fake their way into your life. I think it's probably based on my personal experience that I feel this agitated but those people should just STFU and get on with their lives without causing pain to others. Those are MEAN words and they should NEVER and I mean NEVER be said to people who have done nothing wrong but be themselves.
brightbeauty03 #5
Did you know why I asked you to be my friend? BECAUSE I WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH GAYS!! They're awesome people! And even if I'm Catholic, I DON'T CARE! Friends are not supposed to be friends because of their skin colour, richness, or uality. Doesn't matter! You wanna be friend with that guy then be friends with that guy! I learnt a nice lesson from this 2 quotes: "Before you judge other people, make sure you're perfect" and "So what Gay was a choice? People choose to be s, yet they can still have friends!" People have to learne from this quote!
I_am_a_exotic_shawol #6
Honestly after reading this, I don't think that girl sounds friendly at all. If she was friendly she wouldn't and shouldn't have said those things to you. I can totally relate to you about the flaws, being fat. I have countless of people even my owm family memebers telling me that every single day that's how i became so low in self confidence. Once it was so bad i tried self harming myself. Then in school my friends saw and i started explaing to them. Right after that they were able to help me loads. But the thing here is that homouality isn't a flaw, remember that, it's a path that you chose. Don't care about what people say. Be proud of who you are and ddon't give a about that girl. Don't talk to her ot entertain her anymore. You can't help it. It's who you truly are. If she doesn't like it then why must you bother it's not like she is a family member. Why bother changing your whole personality for just a girl. Be who you are and you will always be happy. Of course there will be many people like this but those whi can accept you are those you should cheerish.





















I am so sorry if i didn't make any sense ㅠ. I just can't take people like that girl.
dojorockergirl #7
I respect people's beliefs, I really truly do, however it's hard to respect a person when their belief is to outcast someone who does not meet the "requirements" of that belief. If a person makes someone feel insecure, offended, and scared because of the way they are, then that person does not deserve to have any part in that someone's life.

The same thing happened to me as to kallistarson, my friend came out to me and two other close friends of ours and we became closer than we ever were.

Never waste your time with people who can't accept you and try to be fake around you once they know the truth, because time is something that you can NEVER get back.
JeolliePanda3 #8
Wow Hyung, to me this girl doesn't even sound like a friend, especially how she seems to bring up the "Gay is a sin" . If she was your friend, then she wouldn't bring it up like that. Obviously she's doing it to bother you, which I'm glad you're not giving her the satisfaction of it. If she knows you're gay and she's still bringing it up, don't even entertain her anymore. If she can't except the fact that you guys
therunaways #9
I can totally relate to this...
_HiLrK_ #10
I don't know that I can relate with you, but I certainly agree. People already know their flaws (not that homouality is a flaw, but the other things you mentioned, like acne) and it will only make them feel worse to have others constantly reminding them.
I don't know how the girl you were talking to brought this up, but to me it sounded like she was trying to change who you were, and to me, that makes no sense. Why talk to someone if what they believe in or who they are bothers you?
Just know, never be ashamed in who you are, though the way you put it, it sounds like you couldn't care less about how others view you. That is a quality that I wish I could have.
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