I was honestly not going to speak on this topic anymore, I was going to stop talking about it last night after I updated my Baekhyun fanfic. At that point, I was really just over the whole thing.

So yes, this is my final thoughts on the Baekhyun and Taeyeon dating issue.

Before I state anything, I just want to apologize to anyone if the things I say offend you. It's just my opinion and my thoughts, you don't have to agree with me. Feel free to disagree with me, okay? So... don't get hurt lol.

Where do I start....

I understand that fans feel hurt or betrayed because of this. Maybe it's because the things that Baekhyun would say that now seem like sweet nothings, in some terms. Just for preference, Heechul once said that idols shouldn't promise fans anything sentimental because they'll take it to heart, and eventually not fulfilling that promise. I guess that's where fans feel the hurt with him dating Taeyeon. I understand that some are frustrated, seeing Exo as still a very new group in the industry and that this is a bad timing for everything to be coming out with a dating issue, more so, the Kris lawsuit. Or even that SM could be faking all of this.

Trust me, I get where most of everyone is coming from.

But here's how I see it.

Their age, their history, how long they've been exposed, and their choices are not for us to judge.

I feel like "they're still a new group, they debuted only 2 years ago, they shouldn't be getting into all of these problems so early, they're going to go downhill now because of this" is WHACK. Lol I'm sorry but that doesn't determine their ability to do whatever they're best at. They're singers, performers... why does their private life have to be incorporated into how we see them?

Don't get me wrong, I agree that they're still a fairly new group. But that's no excuse to Baekhyun and Taeyeon NOT dating or filing a lawsuit. I personally feel like they are entitled to their own choices and beliefs and feelings. That us fans are to not interfere with that, especially if they're in a relationship. To me, a relationship in the kpop world seems so taboo to people. Like, it's so wrong for them to date.

What's so wrong about our idols having feelings? Just because you see them in the arms of someone else makes it wrong? Is that it? I'm not questioning anyone's motives here but really, why is daitng such a horrible thing? The way fans react to their idols dating is one of the most ruthless things I've seen. Not just with Baekhyun and Taeyeon, really. With other idols too. People would threaten the idols, people would cyberbully, it's crazy. And I'm just wondering why is it such a negative thing that your idol found love?

Idols have this set image that they're supposed to be committed to their fans and their quality work while being an idol. They're rolling with the punches, sacrificing so many "typical" things in a lifestyle to be this public icon. I guess that's where it's strange or hurtful to see an idol doing these things such as kissing their boyfriend or girlfriend.

But in all honesty, as a fan myself, of both Baekhyun and Taeyeon, I have no right to in or disapprove of their relationship. I give them props for being in a relationship because it's a sweet reminder that they're not just idols, they're able to focus on something else other than their endless job. It shows me that they've found a rare thing called love and they're trying to make it work. Again, I ask, what's so wrong about that?

As a fan, I feel that I am in no position to even demand approval of any idols' private life choices. In other words, I don't think it's fair if the idol has to make their choices based on what the fans want. You know what I mean? Like who are we to say "she's not allowed to date him"? If anything, I will always remain just as a fan to my idols. Nothing more nothing less. I will never be the one they come across on the streets. I will never get to know them on a personal level. I will never marry them. I will never be in a friendship with them. Of course that would be great thought. I'm not trying to be negative, but it's the truth, it's the reality.

Being a fan... does not give me the right to lose sight of reality. And this reality here, is that these 2 idols have positive feelings for each other. Why do we have to rain on their parade? More so, make such a big deal and stir up more rumors or assumptions? I feel like we should just let them be happy and look at them as another happy couple in the world. If it's fake just so SM can get the attention or whatnot, then they've done a good job; they got our attention. But nonetheless, who are we to decide what the company and/or the artists do?

A fan shows support through thick and thin. We don't have to be okay with them dating. But they're human, they have feelings too. We're human too, therefore, they deserve our respect regardless.

So let's get over this and just accept it.

I apologize if the things I've said are offensive and I mean no harm to anyone reading this. I'm not asking for trouble but this is just my thoughts on it and I'm hoping whatever thoughts I shared with you would somehow influence you in a positive way. If not, then I apologize. My intentions are good ones.

Anyway, I'm sorry that this is so long lol but I hope we'll continue to love Exo no matter what happens. They will have a bright future... only if we clear the way for them to achieve that bright future with them.