I am probably the last person to blog about this but the fact that someone unfriendly as me has friends gives me enough reason to actually go through with this.

HAH.

I am terrible with small talk. I go silent when people start asking personal questions right after adding me as friend (Those details are irrelevant). I am an introvert and I prefer being with myself.

But if I want to have a friend or at least have someone to talk to, I don't wait around for that someone to notice me. People won't know you exist unless you make yourself visible.

I met my first AFF friends inside the old tagbox. I popped up uninvited and joined the conversation or catch-up with the all the conversations going on at the same time.

But the tagbox is gone and the chatbox is filled with trolls, mostly.

Now what?

1. Comment in blogs. I admit that adding friends in my list is the last thing in my mind when I lurked in Social. But I did receive invites that way. (And all I did was explain what karma is or link them to FAQ :0 Seriously, you don't need to add me for that simple reason. If you have questions, my wall is open, so are my blogs.) Try Discussions too. Layout Marketplace? (I met a friend because of a layout haha)

2. Comment in stories. When I commented in unnie's story, having her as friend was not something I expected either. It has been more or less two years and we're still friends.

3. Be a friend. The first two items tell you where to find potential friends but in order to have friends, you have to treat them like how you want them to treat you. If you want a friend, be a friend. 

How to be a friend?

I don't think there is a manual and like I said, I am not a very good example. 

But if you are like me who can't hold a conversation via wallpost, then the following might work for you:

1. Comment in friends' blogs. If you accepted the friend request even when you have no idea why you even got a request from that user, give them a chance to get to know you and vice versa. Comment. Even if they don't reply back, at least you tried to make that connection. (Un-friending them won't make you feel bad, haha xD <- bad Keeper)

2. Blog. Tell them about yourself. But I learned that posts need to be balanced. It should not always be about you. HAHA. I know. It's fun to talk about "I, me, my and mine". Answering quizzes could be quite addicting for some. But... do you honestly read these posts? Sometimes, I do but I don't have anything to contribute. In order for me to reach out, I try posting blogs that you could respond to or help you? aha xD

3. Be available. Just being there when they need a friend is enough.

4. Be supportive. Be encouraging.

5. Be honest. Friends tell each other what we need to hear not what we want to hear. So just be honest. If you think that your friend is doing something wrong or something you don't agree with, tell him/her. (ex. If your friend says plagiarism is okay, but you believe otherwise, you are not being a friend when you agree with him/her. You are just helping him/her to commit a crime. Or if your friend is being suicidal and you don't have it in you to help him/her, tell him/her to seek help in the real world or maybe point him/her to helpful sites. I don't know about you but I don't want to risk his/her mental health with my words. Aha. If your friend posted a graphic that needs improvement, be honest. Don't settle with "It's cute" ^^ )

You might be wondering what triggered this post. But after seeing lots of 911 posts from friend-seekers, I thought this might help. Just in case no one commented in your post, then you have this as plan B :3