Someone Anyone PLEASE HELP ADVICE NEEDED BADLY

Hey firstly thanks for taking time and giving advice here it goes

 

So I've been in the states for about 7 years and have been moving around alot causing me to want to keep only a certain level of closeness to people and never get too attached as I will just leave them. I don't want to feel the pain of losing friends and people i love to go and start over where you don't know anyone or anything. 

 

Now it's time to go back to my home country and I find myself confused on saying goodbye. I tried not to get attached but I failed at it finding that I like the company of the people around me now. It's a must for me to leave even if i want to or not. I only have a few months left before I leave and as the day I leave comes closer the more I'm wracking my brain over this simple situation to some.

 

Recently I was gone for awhile and came back to school today. I was greeted by some with some happiness of me being back while others were just "Oh your back ok". At times I conclude to just leave without a word acting fine the week of leaving and just let whatever emotion I have burst when I'm gone. 

 

Then some of my friends and I will be having a really good time and then bring up the topic of me leaving and say they will be really sad and miss me very much. Then at those times I would decide that I will tell them that I will be leaving that week or the day before I do but.....

 

I just don't know how to...

I don't know what I would say....

How I would act or feel....

I don't want to cry on that day but even at times at just thinking about it I feel tears and pain creeping up.....

I don't even know if I should say it or not.....

 

Theres also the chance of receiving the "I love you please stay" speech and honestly it could just make me more crazy and confused thinking what I would say to her . I don't want to hurt either of us 

 

Please give a descriptive advice on what I should do. Not anything on follow my heart because seriously neither of my brain or heart can decide. Thanks for reading please reply asap

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Ice_Trinh #1
Well...first i would go up to that person and ask to spend that day with them...just the two of you...then that you r leaving soon but say want you've want to say as well and see how it goes...but most importantly keep memories of that moment(pic.) and keep memories of your friends as well...and like everyone else say use skype or email them or if you have facebook use that as well. Its never easy to say goodbye...but then i would of said hello because it will never b a last goodbye... Hope this will help....FIGHTINGG!!! " )
BaekYeon9 #2
I think you should tell them you're leaving and you should also tell her cause she needs to know, you can keep in touch with them with skype or something. anyways good luck in telling them :) hope it turns out well. and by the way where is your home country? just asking
SHREKYBEARRULES #3
There's no easiest way to say goodbye... What I think I would do if I'm in your situation... 1st confess to the girl I've been secretly in love....(prepare for rejection)XD .... I don't mean to laugh but yep that's me... I handle rejection with laughing at my self for trying to be cool...lol... Hey u r more lucky than me... At least u know she has feelings for u.... Well let say this world isn't as wide as it used to be... U can reach people from the other sides of the world in seconds... Internet Skype... There's virtual bridge which can connects u with person u loves... U can't touch her/him but u can feel the happiness when u saw her even in Skype's low quality video, u can hear her voice in crappy Skype's audio... Its the beautiful sound that put smiles on your face... Man we should the do best we could for our happiness and person we cares most ... In any way we can... Good luck buddy!!!... ^^
musiclover16 #4
that , but you have to accept it. you need to keep in mind that everything happenes for a reason. just tell your friend the reason of you leaving, they'll understand it. just tell them that no matter how far you are from each other you'll keep in touch, using social net. just spend your remaining days with them, leaving with happy memories. Don't say goodbye, just say 'see yah' its more easier than byes.
that what I do to my friends that I left behind, I just keep in mind that we will see each other again. or if we dont see each other again, at least I leave a happy memmories with them before I leave. ^^
Kpopfan29 #5
I'm bad with advice but will give my opinion in case it helps. I wouldn't know how it feels to constantly leave friends like you. If i was in this situation I would gather my friends and tell them i need to have a serious conversation with you guys and then let my friends know that i was moving on this month and other things they needed to know about the move. Your friends will have different reactions to your news but the sooner you tell them the better (hopefully). They will have to know sooner or later and i would assume your friends would like to know right away. Gives you and your friends to live your last days before your moving to be of happy and eventful memories. Your feeling of sadness and wanting to cry are normal when you leave friends. As for the " I love you please stay" thing that may be something you have to think of to tell her on your own. As much as you want to tell her you will stay you both know deep down that you will not be there anymore. What you, your friends, and the girl need is some closure. Even if you are moving the thought that you will be leaving on a good note with the people important in your life will put your heavy heart at ease. It's not easy to say goodbye. I left this year to another town for my first year in college. I had a hard time saying goodbye to my friends. I am from a small town so i have known these people since elementary. But we all had peace in our hearts knowing that we told everyone that we will go seperate ways but we will always be friends no matter how far the distance may be. i still haven't made friends in this new town but knowing that i still have my friends who still chat with me makes its a little less lonely. Even if your new life isn't what you expect it to be and you might feel lost and confused at times but know that you have your friends from your old home to support you. Sorry if i wasnt of any help but i do hope you have an idea of what to do and say. Your actions speak louder than words.
leejuyon14 #6
then don't say goodbye.. just tell them that your gonna move and you'll see them when you see them, well that's what i tell my friends cause we rarely see one other.. Friends are friends we see them or not they are still there when you need them, you could always call, text, email, chat or even videocall them.. about the case of love life well thats for both of you to decide..
I'm not that good in words sorry, hope somehow it helps..Take care:D
_pinocchio_ #7
There are many options. If you decide to go back then tell them ASAP. Tell them when you are hanging out. I feel you. I had the same when I left the Netherlands and Spain. In the Netherlands my parents tol everyone but in Spain I tol them when we were playing basketball. They told me they were going to miss me but they let me go because they knew it was useless to try to make me stay. I moved alot too from country to country and know Im back at my home country. I dint regret coming back though because even if I left my bestfriends and crushes I still feel happy because I know they will still support me even if Im far away. Just think about it a little more. Whatever your decision is never ever regret it because if you will regret it you'll make it harder for yourself.
I hooe I helped a little hehe
Coolbean #8
Hi there. I understand what you are going through even though I have not experienced it personally. What is the reason you are moving back to your home country. I know it's not easy being the new kid, and it's especially harder moving when you have just settled down. May I ask why you move so much?Sometimes in life we have to let go to move on and continue with our lives, but sometimes there's also that something or someone worth holding back for. As for friends, we can always make new friends and keep in contact with our old ones. I moved to a middle school two years ago( I'm in 8th grade) where i only knew three out of the 600 people there. I wasn't able to attend the school my elementary was enrolled in because of my home location. It was not in the district. I have met so many more people and have 5 really close bestfriends. I even got closer to my friend from the other school because we face timed almost everyday. Your relationship with so wine doesn't matter on if you are actually with them and time spent with them, it does matter though, it's about your connections with each other. Leaving sometimes make you closer to one another believe it or not. I once met a friend in pre k but we were separated in elementary. I completely forgot about her for the next 5 years, mainly because I was a kid, I didn't know any better. But in middle school, when I was looking at my childhood pictures I saw a picture if her and I remembered her and we became reunited in middle school. Call me old fashion but if it was ment to be you guys will meet again. Sorry I am really not of at giving advice. I myself is an advice seeker. But if you are moving away you can always exchange social networks and maybe have reunion in a few years. Hope I helped in the slightest way. Best of luck! 
VanillaVinegar #9
Honestly...I think this blog post itself is a really good start if you want to know what you should say. :)

Hi...I'm a random person who just somehow stumbled upon this...(creepy, I know OTL)...but I thought this was really sweet and I can sense that you're genuinely conflicted about your friends and your departure.

If what you wrote in this blog is what you feel in your heart, then maybe you should gradually tell your friends everything you've put down in here. :) That would be a good start. And real friends will understand how you feel, and even if they give you the "I love you please stay" speech, they should understand that it's not your choice to leave. You sound like a sweet person and I hope it all works out. :3

- Vanilla.
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