I Need To Tell Her Story

Hi guys okay so this is a sad blog, but its a true story about my best friend. Before we get depressing I need to ask a question. Do any of you know where I could trade or buy the EXO photo cards that come in the album? Do any of you have duplicates ir something that you would like to sell me, preferably Luhan. If you don't that's cool I know I'm late lol. Ok now to the real topic. So if you've read some of my previous blogs you know that I have a suicidal best friend. He is a boy, and I am happy to say he is no longer hurting himself. He got his stuff figured out and he is no longer depressed anymore. Thank god. But now I am facing another problem. My best friend that's a girl is harming her self. Let me explain me explain the sitution. So my friends name is Tiffany, she had a boyfriend nameda Mathew. He was like really rude and I hated him. He was an abusive boyfriend but Tiffany is very insecure, she didn't think she deserved any better. Her best guy friend named Perry has been in love with Tiffany for a really long time. After breaking up with Mathew for Perry her life got extremely complicated. She doesn't want to leave Mathew out of anything, and she doesn't want to lose his friendship. So she keeps her relationship with Perry a secret. She is so depressed she doesn't know what she wants so she began cutting. She made small cuts all over her leg. When I found out I asked her why, and she said because emotional pain is still worse than physical. I started going over to her house a lot more to keep her from doing those things. I noticed that she was blowing Perry off for Mathew. This made Perry really upset and he would cry. So this weekened Perry's mom went to pick up Perry from Tiffanys house and she decided to go off on her. Perrys moms name is Kim. She kicked Perry out of the room, but he refused to leave. So Kim starts telling how tiffany needed to choose, she couldn't keep playing her son Luke that. Tiffany started crying and didn't know what to do. She called tiffany other things and tiffanys dad walked in. He's like seventy something, so he had tiffany when he was like fifty. He told Kim to get out of his house, that she had no right to go to his house and yell at his daughter. And this hitch went and told him that he was stupid. She started screaming about how he was too ducking old to he having kids. That he made a mistake having tiffany because he didn't know how to raise her. That all this mess was his fault. He told her that she needed to leave now. Then he said no wonder Perrys always over here. He was right your a psycho . She turned around and slapped the crap out of Perry. Tiffanys dad threw them both out. Tiffany wanted to he left alone after that. She ended up cutting her leg thirty three times. Then she gets a message saying she is no longer allowed to see Perry ever again. And that he won't be going to homecomming with her. She is really depressed right now. She had bought her dress and finished his mum the day before the fight. She could really use some encouriging words rught now. And I could use you guys help in giving them to her. She's a great girl and doesn't deserve this. So please comment what you feel and leave some words for Tifanny. Thanks you guys.

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lil_jolie
#1
Hey Tiffany, i may not know you and i don't know if my words would actually help you in any way, but i'm still going to say it: Girl, you deserve the best. Don't think low of yourself, don't be insecure and don't let others use you because you think you deserve it. Because thinking you don't deserve any better is, well, bull. Let me say, you DESERVE it. Everyone deserves to have the best, be happy and have a healthy relationship. You're a good girl, and Mathew's the one who didn't deserve you. And Perry is a really good guy. Waiting for you like that, standing by your side while seeing you hurt yourself because of a jerk while he loves you and would give everything for your happines.. See? you're not alone. There are guys out there that truly love you and won't hurt you :)

I'm not saying to choose Perry, because i don't know what's in your heart. Figure out your feelings and make a decision that would bring you happines. Be selfish for once and think only about yourself and no one else!

And don't cut yourself anymore,a beautiful person shouldn't taint herself with scars that will never fade away. Believe me, i know what i'm saying :)
Jocelyn_H
#2
First of all, she needs to completely FORGET Mathew. He was an abusive boyfriend, and she doesn't need to be treated like that. She needs to be treated with respect and needs to be loved. Tiffany should stay with Perry. and Perry's mom had no right to yell at Tiffany and to her dad. And tell Tiffany that she needs to get help for her self-harming. It is not the only way out, I promise. At the moment, it might seem like that would be her only choice, but it really isn't. She should read a book, or take a walk, or talk to her father about her problems. SOMETHING. Just not self-harming. I know what it feels like to be her. She needs to realize that she is worth it. That her life is worth it. A lot of people love her, and they would be really sad if they see her die or just see her harming herself. I don't want to see her suffer like this. Or not anyone suffer like this. My prayers go to her. Stay strong Tiffany <3
DazzlingTaemint
#3
All i can say is i'm sorry for what has happened and i hope she grows stronger and stops harming herself. She deserves so much better than what life has given her. I wish i could say more but i honestly wouldnt know what to do in this situation except remember all of the things that im fortunate enough to have and remember that there are still people out there that care.
Best of luck to you <3 stay strong girl!
-dearmydeer
#4
omg i'm crying ;_;
just....try to tell tiffany that Matthew is no good for her, that Perry's better. Perry loves her with all his heart yet she keeps blowing him off
yet Matthew is just a horrible person
and then Kim should literally shut up and go away. i legit want to kill her. how dare you slap your own child and freak out on someone else.
and try to convince Kim that it wasn't perry's fault
and honestly tiffany's dad should have helped perry. all of them are unacceptable
pandarama87
#5
I've never had boy problems, but I've known of many who have. Matthew... isn't the right guy. Tiffany, you deserve better. Don't ever underestimate what you can do. He isn't the one. Be friends with him, it's fine. But never put Matthew over Perry, especially if you know he's the one.

Kim...*shakes my head* she has a mouth that will never stop unless you shut it up personally, but my friend's mom is just the same. She doesn't have a right to *itch at other people, she should know that as an adult. Kim is just like my friend's mom, they can never stay out of their children's privacy. She really should know better. And your father, he may be old.

My grandmother is like the mother to my one year old cousin, who's mother drops her off at my grandmother's house everyday 24/7. Age doesn't mean you can't have children. Honestly, Tiffany, your dad didn't give birth to you. And Kim should know that, because your mom gave birth to you.

I've almost went suicidal. almost... I was so close. When my guyfriend went suicidal for a *itch. I literally was going to wrap him up in buble wrap. Seriously. He only scarred himself a couple times. But physical pain, it doesn't replace emotional pain. I know, everyone has those thoughts.

But its not the right path. Kim was wrong to do so.

And think about it, you left Matthew for Perry right?
Perry has waited so long for you to accept him, it's not your fault.

This choice is yours. I have no right to decide for you, but you have to make a choice. Maybe non is better than one, but listen to your heart. Only you can make the right choice, and its in your heart. You can decide by listening to your heart, not your mind or others. You heart

And Kim, she's just protecting Perry, not technically in the correct way. But she's doing what she thinks is right.

And you are too.

Get well, and remember. You have all of us to lean on.
Babyatheart #6
Let me start by saying a few things. I know her feelings. One something similar happened to me were I had to choose. However, instead of physical abuse both boys were using forms of psychological abuse to get my attention, and at this time, I was sick. I was suffering from serious depression which one had no understanding of (the one I was dating). Anyways, I almost stopped everything with both boys, but in the end I choose the boy I was dating. I understand why she things cutting will help her. I used to harm myself too. But I personally think she needs to step back and let both boys go. There's a saying (which I don't remember completely) But if you let someone go and they come back, they are yours, but if you let them go and they don't come back they were never yours in the first place. I think at this point in time she needs to find out who's worth keeping in her life. If they both care enough, they will find away to be with her.
Sometimes people really need to step back to see whats important.
And finally, as I tell my friend that has a lot of boyfriend problems is 'Punch him in the face'
I've punched guys before. And it made me feel better and though they might get annoyed by it, they get over it faster than the stupid brickering fights that always end badly.
Also, please tell her, you always deserve better. I thought that too at one time, but you truly deserve the world. All of us do. Please tell her don't settle for less. If someone truly loves and cares about her they will love her past present and future no matter what.
Tiffany cheer up! You did nothing wrong... however you do have to choose, Perry, Matthew, or Neither? The faster you choose the better everything is.
Also Perry's mother is in the wrong. She shouldn't have done that to a young child. I know her son is hurting, but Tiffany seems like a nice girl she's just confused. I hope things work out. Please tell her to come talk to me if she needs any help.
First_Love #7
I think Tiffany should choose Perry. But I'm not saying she's wrong cuz she'll need time to realize it.She needs to know that she's much more than shen thinks she is.
I am not good at this kinda stuff so sorry if this doesn't help.
All the best Tiffany!
Starry-Valley
#8
Eee, I get that she's your best friend and all but let me get this straight just so I won't say something stupid.
Tiffany was afraid of losing abusive boyfriend, Mathew's friendship, and "broke up" with him to be with Perry in secret.
(Did Perry know that those two were finished or was this one big secret?)
Tiffany was so afraid of Mathew (still wanting his friendship?) that she ditched the good guy who she actually liked (Perry) for him.
She starts cutting now and then Perry's mother, Kim, comes to take him away from her saying it is obvious that Tiffany is playing him.
But the two were in love and Kim gave Tiffany a much needed ultimatum which was: Date Perry the nice guy or Date Mathew the abuser? (Am I right or wrong?)
If I was her, that would've been an easy decision. I really can't understand how someone would want to remain friends with an abuser.
Nonetheless, I hope your friend is okay and I wish I could've seen how dazzling she was in her dress. :D
dolcericordi
#9
Ok, firstly, I hope from the bottom of my heart that your friend will get well soon and don't be so depressed over life. There are many many more amazing things and things worth crying for than boys. Recently I read a book and they are talking about how everyone has a place in this world and you're are worth every part of your being like everyone else and you just have to find your self-worth.

Secondly, I think that you should ask your heart who do you really like. You must notice that your actions might have indirectly hurt many people around you. To be honest, I did the same thing as you a couple of years ago. It was exactly the same situation only that all three of us are really my good friends and I didn't want to break this happy atmosphere. Well, I was wrong. We went separate ways very painfully after a good five years of being friends.

Be strong and make a right decision! Fighting~

P.S. I have luhan's photo card from their very first album xD who do you have?
GLloveOandSHINee
#10
Tiffany i think you should leave Mathew i mean he is a good for nothing boyfriend and since Perry loves you a lot than you should be with him secretly if Mathew bothers you go tell your parents or something like that or push him off probably you dont have the courage but if you dont fix your life nobody will.So be strong because the world is tough and i think you should talk to someone just so you can feel better and please dont be insecure i am sure your a beautiful person everybody is and i know your bored of this stupid thing that people say everybody is beautiful but Perry loves you right so that means you are beautiful dont let the words of his stupid mum put you down.You should go to that homecoming prom and wear your beautiful dress because you are beautiful dont let anybody bring you down
karkrae #11
I really wish I could help but I've never been in this sort of situation so I don't know what to do......
xXxCatsLoverxXx #12
aw, even though i feel bad for her, part of it is her own fault, based on my own understanding.
but humans make mistakes
we must deal with them in a calm rational way
cutting only adds on to one's problems
cutting doesn't help
talk to someone that won't judge others
and then apologise to people and try to make things right
someday, things will get brighter
someday, things will be better
accept your own flaws, your mistakes
for nobody is perfect.
hwaiting!
most importantly, please tell your friend to have faith and be strong
the world may not be a good place
and there are a lot of harder challenges out there
hope this helps ^^