Bullying

So you see, my friend, let's just call him, " X ".

X- he's one year older than me. Has a childish personality and people often mistakes him for having ADHD because he's very hyper. He's super chubby and is not that tall. (Description)

When I was younger, I admired him a lot because he was super popular around the neighbourhood. Me? I would just be up at home looking at him playing with his new friends. Looking at him play with envy. Because, I wasn't given as much freedom as he had. 

But-

He's an outcast in society. He's being bullied in school I don't know if it's everyday but I know he's being bullied. 

Well I don't really blame the bullies because you see, my friend is actually very arrogant, he talks without thinking and usually, the things he says are hurtful and mean, he's boast a lot too. One example of him being mean-

My father was hospitalize because he slipped down from a lorry. He broke 2 bones.

Then X texted me and asked me where I was and I replied saying that I was in the hospital.

He asked me why and I told him that my father was hospitalized because he fell down from the lorry.

Guess what was his reply?

He's reply was this, " Why your father always go to the hospital?" 

I hated his reply. I mean like, it's not often you know. He never cosidered how I felt, how sad and how afraid I was and this was his way of 'consolation' huh? This made me hate him more and afterwards, I rarely spoke to him. Nothing could describe how pissed I was with his comment.

People hate him a lot and I'm one of them. I was his friend since young and when I was young, I played with him a lot but as I grew older, I began to think that he was childish and started avoiding him.

Later I found out tha X had made a viedo on youtube and recived lots of views, (677 views its a lot to me cos my trailers cant even get that amount of views.) though it has many negetive comments. I watched the video and trust me, there were moments where I wanted to just punch his chubby face and vomit at the sight of him acting cute while I was watching the video.

I know this is very mean of me to say ablut all this and I probably would have people saying like, "YOU'RE HIS FRIEND! YOU'RE SUPPOSE TO TREAT HIM NICER AND ACCEPT WHO HE IS!"

Trust me, I did try but every single time, he would break it.

Tell me, what am I suppose to do. 

 

 

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HaneulD #1
don't treat him nicer if you want but try to wake him up from what he's doing, i know he's being mean and all but you said he's being bullied and people around him hates him right? he might be broken that's why he's acting like this to look strong, i said he might be but i don't know i'm just saying this cuz i have a friend like him, she acts all arrogant uncaring at all, there was a time where i told her that i feel sad and my chest hurt amd she said so? we all have times like this, i didn't mind cuz i know that behind all this she's too fragile and broken cuz she lost her mother then not so long after she lost her father and a few years later she lost her sister, she's acting mean cuz she don't want to look weak cuz of the thing that happened to her, maybe just maybe your friend had painful reasons for acting like this? i don't know but try to talk to him if he was just acting then be his strength source and if he was being like this just cuz he wants to then try to talk him out of it and give him a piece of your mind and yeah i talk a lot sorry ="$
Taestar #2
hello! i just read this :) i don't think youre supposed to treat him nicer. your already have accepted who he is- an insensitive, maybe socially problematic person.

i think you should treat him like... a good acquaintance. he did hurt you. and even though he is being bullied..he doesn't understand why. although bullying is wrong, and noone deserves to be bullied, if he doesn't recognise his own behaviour, he doesnt deserve to have close friends either because he's only going to hurt them and never be sorry. next time he txts something hurtful to you, can you say something like "wow. that was rude! :(" to show him you're not happy!
like any other acquaintance, think of him as someone you don't really know. he is different from the kid you used to play with. you don't need to talk to him especially, and if he initiates convo try to talk about easy things.

if he complains to you about the bullying, tell him to stop saying things and blend into the background. but i am guessing he won't do that haha.

don't hate or dislike him, but don't love or like him either. his videos are probably popular because just like you, everyone is watching because they don't like him. dont feel jealous about that! you wouldn't like it if people were watching your videos and feeling disgusted. his views are coming from people laughing at him!

i don't think you are being mean at all. don't let him hate you, because that will just cause problems in the future. but just... maybe distance yourself. and don't let yourself be bothered by him. this is going to sound really bad, but know that you are more well recieved than him, and more...better than him, and treat his words like they are coming from the village idiot. get angry at his words, but don't let yourself get offended! don't let him affect you that way when he clearly doesn't get it :)

i hope my comment is ok... i know a LOT of people like him and friends like him, and this has been the best way i found to handle it :)
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