A Little Advice? Help?

Ok so I don't know if anyone even reads these, but if you do, I was wondering if you could offer me a little advice.

I feel like one of my closest friends is getting sick of me, and I don't know how to ask her if I'm being too clingy or something. To be honest I don't think I am because I think we used to be like how I'm acting now (I used to message her and the same amount as now). My problem is that if she is sick of me I'm afraid to lose her, and if she isn't (or says she isn't) I'll probs still feel like a clingy .

I know I'm kinda venting here, but I doubt anyone cares anyway... My biggest problem is that I feel selfish with her, like however much I give I always take more. This is really hard because she is always (or was) saying that I always do so much for her, and was always complimenting me on my writing and getting excited over it with me, but now not as much. I find it really difficult because I feel like I'm being selfish and am aware that I should also feel guilt, but I don't. It's just really confusing and probably in my head and I'm probably just messed up because I think I might like her, but still if you have any advice to offer please do!

I could use a little advice (even if it is that you know multiple people that have/do feel this way that's at least reassuring) so please offer what you have!

~ Jocelyn xoxo

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ashes-on-fire #1 Jul 1, 2013 06:44:24

Hm, so if you think you're losing her because you're giving as much as you take? Maybe for a little while then, try be like super nice to her. Get excited about something she loves to do, compliment her too. Maybe not super obviously, but whenever you see her next and you just like the top she's wearing just be like, "I like that top on you". I'm sure even something as little as that will show her that you want her around and want her to feel good about herself and stuff.
Now about you think you like her. I had that problem too. Two if my friends were really cuddly and we'd be cuddling and lying down or whatever, and I'd have this urge to kiss her. I didn't kiss either of them and I didn't really say to anybody that I thought about those two 'romanticly' like they'd be cute girlfriends to spoil. I think I can say from experience that you move on past that. Because I had that urge as well with my best friend who is like my soul mate. No joke, like we are eachothers life line. We have so much in common but yet we get annoyed at eachother and we both know it. Yet we can mention an inside joke and we're laughing again. We've connected so much I don't even have to question whether I love her more than my boyfriend or not. She's told me too that her boyfriend is annoying sometimes and like, we're past love and we're past friends. It takes a while and things in common; but if you commit and you try, your friend won't be able to live without you either.
Hopefully that helped o.O