Hello everyone! First and foremost, I want to extend a big thank you to all my readers and all the kind advice you've given me in my last blog post. Im sure your advice had not only helped me, but also others who have encountered the same situation. Today's blog post will be about how I almost screwed up my best friend's relationships and the roles best friends should have when their bestie is going to have a relationship~

                        This week, I made a big mistake. Not really, a HUGE mistake, but a mistake. It depends on how you see it. I have a best friend who I care alot about. She's a really underrated person, which such a unique personality. She's very 4D (korean terms xD ) But anyways, a few months ago, I was at her basketball game. (Btw, she's a freak on the court! Totally different from when she's off the court!) She's not entirely girly, but she has her moments. Anyways, back to the topic. At her basketball game, the boy's basketball team was also there, because their game was next. She was acting a little strange, so I asked her if she was just nervous for the game. She has pointed at a guy who's number was 69 (yes, 69. tsk tsk) 

"I like him" She whispered to me.

Oh, you should've seen the smile on my face. That was probably the cutest thing I've heard. Because she's so athletic and tall, some boys don't really look at her. But she's tall and skinny with these beautiful blue eyes, and when I saw this guy's face, I was overjoyed. I immediately knew that he was definately her type of guy. It was adorable. Later that day, they had an afterparty, exclusively for the basketball players. I told her to make sure to say a simple hi. The next day, I texted her.

Me: Did you say hi?!

Her: Omg no, I chickened out. I'm such a retard.

I felt bad for little, or tall, (let's call her Elle) Elle. She was really so innocent in this kind of game, but she was willing to make it happen. So, I called up my other best friend to work her magic. And WALA, they started texting. Now, it's been 2 months, and let me say, this guy has made ALOT of mistakes. He was at her championship game, at which she made the winning score, and he didn't congratulate her. He didn't even say hi to the other games she had won. And being me, I was dissapointed and upset. I didn't want to see Elle like this, and it got me angry. I hate seeing her wait on someone, because she deserved someone who would just come clean to her about his feelings. So, this is where I made my mistake. Being me, I texted her, and I asked her how she really felt.

Her: I still like him, but not as much as before. Honestly, I just wanna know if he likes me too or if he doesn't. I dont wanna waste myy time anymore. Idk what I wanna do. I just wish I never saw this kid. I hate liking someone.

I felt like I was gonna cry. I really hated seeing my best friend, the one I've never fought with and the one who's accepted me with everthing go through a pain. And to be honest, the kid used up all my patience on him. So, this is what I said.

Me: Elle, I hate hate hate seeing you like this. I don't wanna see you waste time on him, but it's your life. If you still like him, try to make your moves. But I really do hate seeing you wait on a guy. I dont wanna see you wait and wait for a text that might not even come till next month. He said nothing at the championship gamne to you, but he was flirting with other girls. There are many many guys, Elle. He should do all the waiting and the texting, not you. 

Her: You're completely right. I don't give a about him anymore.

And that's what happened. I felt good about myself, I saved a friend from waiting and waiting. But then, I texted my guy friend, (lets call him Jerry). Jerry is someone I can consult and just have the simplest talks about. He'll judge me, but he does it in a way where it makes me a better person. He told me that what I did was wrong. How do I know if this guys isn't just shy to his feelings and towards Elle? Jerry's experienced something like this, and he was telling me the feelings from a guy's POV. 

Jerry:  It was a best friend instinct that you did, but you shouldn't have changed Elle's mind on things. Trust me, I know what it's like from his point of view. It took me 5 months to ask the girl I like out, and she said no. That's what he's worried about. Do you hear yourself right now? You're making me cringe.

I was sitting there, feeling guilty as ever. Jerry's right, I shouldn't have done that. I couldn've screwed up the guy's future plans. But what I did was childish and stubborn and I accept what I did. But I couldn't really help it, I just hated seeing her wait on someone like that. But thank goodness I talked to Jerry, without him, where would I be in life? Jerry gave me a more open mind. Thanks Jerry. So, this morning I made sure I texted Elle. I told her what Jerry said, and that she should have an open mind too. I told her everything will happen all due in time, so we might never know. Thank goodness she is also keeping an open mind. 

So, lesson learned, try not to screw up your best friend's relationships. Always have an open mindset on things, and try to see things from both Point of views. Although your daily best friend instinct will kick in, try seeing things from both sides, and never judge to easily. A best friend should always support their friend, but also put in their own input. But make sure to really thinkg about that input and how you word it. Of course, always try to protect your best friend, but also try to protect what could be in the future. Have you ever encountered something like this? Where you almost screwed up a friend's relationship? Or something where your friend almost screw up your relationship? Got any more advice to tell people who want to help their best friend and their love lives?

Thank you for reading my blog post today! Hmm, what should my post be next time? Anything you guys want me to blog about?

-Clearwater x