First of all, I want to clarify that English is not my first language, so I'm sorry for any mistake. Also clarify that this blog does not seek to offend anyone, just talk about a topic that catches my attention, all opinions are welcome as long as there is respect.

Possessiveness is really necessary in a relationship? Perhaps people consider a boring relationship when possessive jealousy is not in the way?
 

I think so, readers mainly see it this way.

Today is normal to find fanfics of this type of relationship, I risk saying that stories with these themes are the most read and voted on this website, but why? That is something that is not clear to me. Today it is so common to find a male character who treats his co-protagonist as an object, telling who she can talk to, how she should dress, even in the smallest thing his demand is important, leaving his partner as a shadow, like a extension of him. Perhaps in some cases this is justified, when the plot of the story uses it perhaps as some disorder, or some gangster in love, but history must show that this type of relationship is not romantic, that it is sickly and overcome that obstacle so that love can work.

One more question comes to my mind, can it be harmless possessiveness? A possessiveness that is only words in the wind but does not carry actions of it.

The truth is I do not know, I just know that the more possessive the masculine character shows, the more attractive it becomes for the readers.

Emphasizing that this only happens with the male characters, because if a female character were retrated in this way would be seen as the most unbearable character in the story, or am I wrong?

To the point that I wanted to arrive is like seeing that a toxic relationship is romanticized to such an extent that they try to make it go through a healthy and normal relationship.

As they make it look nice that a man treats his wife as trash and wants to use as a punishment or a reward depending on how his partner behaves (as if he were her father or something like that). Criticism does not apply role plays, which have the function of participating in these acts in a consensual manner.

and I just want to say STOP, if you want to address these issues do it with responsibility and maturity. We are talking about behaviors that lead millions of women all over the world to slavery and death, who also see these behaviors through a pink crystal.

I know that many see y (so to speak) this type of behavior, and leave with the excuse that it is only a story and therefore can write what they want.

AND THEY HAVE ALL THE REASON.

Because the point of this criticism really does not go to the authors who write these topics (although also a bit for them) But for the readers who consume this kind of literature without maturity and responsibility, because being realist the largest group of people in this web are teenagers from 13 to 18 years old.

Believing that it is cute and romantic that her boyfriend mistrusts even her own shadow or even feel jealous of her family.

Please, if you are at the age when you think you are ready to have a romantic relationship, inform yourself about how to lead a healthy relationship and how to identify a toxic relationship. If you are already in one, ask for help and advice on how to get out of that relationship, do not let it consume you and never leave these tips for later because it may be too late.

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If you got here, thank you very much, I hope my basic English is not a problem to understand the message I wanted to convey.

It's the first time I write a blog and I do not know if I expressed myself in the right way but I did the best I could.

Let me know what you think about this topic and if you are willing to or romanticize this type of relationship.

Thank you for reading.

-NINA