part of being a human is being able to pain. but when can you say that tour pain is greater than the pain that he/she have? why is it hard for them to ubderstand that your hurting as well? why is it always you who needs to adjust and understand their pain? Why? why do you always diaregard your pain when both of you are experiencing the what we call "pain". can he/she see that your hurting as well? can you?