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Have you ever got this feeling like you never did anything right in your life? 

Like all of the sudden, your confidence vanished and your self-esteem hits rock bottom to the point that you're pitying yourself. And you're pushing everyone you love away from you that you didn't know you're actually hurting them without you meaning it to. Then when you look at people around you, it's like they're looking down on you and judging you from being the failure that you are. 

I grew up being compared to others so I always feel like this. It's like no matter what I do, I can never do anything right. 

It's like I'm back when I was still on 3rd grade and I got lost at the mall, all alone with no one to run to. It's what I'm feeling right now. I wanted to talk to my family about this but it makes me uncomfortable and I've got this feeling that they wouldn't understand me. I feel pressured by them too. 

My brain is squishy. Couldn't think straight. 

I'm losing sleep and no, it's not just recently. I'm not getting any good sleep in years. 

Even listening to kpop isn't enough distraction. 

I'm the type of person who keeps her problems to herself so this will be the first time in years that I voiced this out. 

 

I think I need help. 

 

 

 

 

or pizza. 

I don't know. 

I feel sad. 

 

 

#coconutproblems

 

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BubbbleTeaaa #1
I relate to this so much tbh. No one would believe me anyways if I said I'm feeling like that because I look like so happy and joyous. But when I look in the mirror I only see flaws, not just the physical ones. I don't even have friends, just my sister who I live. I hope it gets better for you. I'm going on a mini vacation in a secluded area for some time and I hope it'll help me and I'll finally find a way to improve myself, I'm always too lazy because I have a feeling I'll fail anyway. Good luck, and lots of love. You're not alone
Navydark
#2
I know how it feels. When i did my thesis, I met the hardest time in my life. Its like 80% fit with your description. I even get panic attack and anxiety. Never share problems too, because i know nobody will understand. I dont know if i really can help you but, want to share?
what i learn from my experience, i need to understand and love myself more. And most important is, stop distracting yourself from the problem you have, but face it. Because that problem wont vanish till you face it and get over it. /In my case by finishing my thesis/. Sorry if i'm being too harsh.
sapphire_girl #3
i, too, usually keep to myself. i really don't know what to advise...maybe try to think of a thing or two that somehow makes you happy or relaxed? (anything but kpop)...take a day off or travel if you're up to it.
loner_moon #4
im bad at giving wise advice,
so call me when you have pizza
:)
cecichan #5
I understand how you feel. but there are people who love you just the way you are!don't think about the things you didn't do...think about the things you WILL do! do something that you like,that you love! forget about what people think,they have no right to judge you! and talk to your family about that, i'm sure they will help you :) don't put yourself down,girl! don't give anyone the satisfaction to see your sadness... you are strong!:)
ImInLoveWithKyungsoo
#6
I'm a psychology student so I'll tell you everything I know about this. I'm sorry in advance for any mistakes, english is not my first language. Basically that can happen for two reasons. The first one is that you are feeling depressed about something so you don't feel like doing anything and you start hating everything you do because...you're depressed. Or anxious. If you feel ok, happy, but still bored, with low confidence and being too hard on yourself ( don't know if that's the right expression) , then there's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes our brain goes into resting mode for no reason. We don't feel satisfied with anything we do or achieve and there isn't anything that feels entertaining or good enough. "Resting mode" is a natural thing. In other words, your brain is taking a break from being excited and happy, so it just stays neutral for a while. Getting enough sleep, stimulating yourself with your hobbies even if you don't feel like ir will probably help with that. Feel free to message me if you need further help. I wish you the best.
LokiCraze123
#7
Hey. Honestly, I have these feelings also, but over time, I learned how to cope with it. There are moments when I feel like I'm not good enough because I always find someone who I think is better, smarter, prettier, whatever. But, in fact, they're just people. They all make mistakes, they all work hard to become who they are, and, maybe not all of them feel like they're not worth it, I promise you there are plenty because I'm one of them. On the outside, I always try my best to be the happiest in the room even though I'm hurting inside by either comparing myself to the person next to me or getting hurt by something that someone said. I tell myself it's normal or they just didn't mean it, but, of course, in the back of my head i didn't believe it. The first step to getting better is definitely talking about it. I honestly don't like talking to my parents about it, but one time I had a breakdown and confessed to my mom that I didn't feel pretty and felt like a failure. To my surprise, she supported me and told me that beauty isn't everything and you must do what makes you happy. After that, we got closer because now she understands where I'm coming from. If you can't talk to your parents, I would tell one of your close friends. I have one friend I always go to, and she somehow says the things I need to hear to gheer me upm Then, do the things you like to do without caring if people will judge you because there's always someone who enjoys the same things as you. Yes, you will still feel cautious about it, but if you do what you love, then it makes everything better.

I'm not sure if it makes sense, but I'm glad you're opening up even if it's to strangers.