Overreacting?

First of all, I hope u had a great day :))

So, my friend has a boyfriend, they are together for a half year. He is actually really nice, but he's an ignorant idot, that's my opinion about him. My friend is really stressed out and I assume it is because of him.

I don't reall know how to describe him, but I'll try it.

He thinks school her is easy and he doesn't understand how she is stressed out because of school (sidenote: He is not going to school) and our school is really hard.

My friend has a little problem in accounting, she is good in maths tho, but she doesn't get the logic behind accounting. I don't blame her, but her lovely boyfriend does, he thinks accounting is easy and blames her for being stupid. You can't be good in every subject, everyone has weaknesses. Apperantly he doesn't.

Also, our school ends late sometimes and my friend has to drive for almost two hours with by train to school and back. So when school ends at 17:00pm and she gets home at 19:00 pm, she only has time to eat, doing homework and shower. He of course wants to come over and spend time, but she is too tired and he gets mad at her.

As for my friend, she is very creative, talented in drawing and is intresed in travelling the world, but he isn't, he is very close minded, he doesn't even wants to listen to her. He also told her once infront of me that he doesn't care and doesn't listens what she is talking. Also, she always tries to make time for him, but when she wants to do something with him as a couple he is not home or with friends somewhere else.

I am really worried about her, because he is hurting her bad.

Am I overreacing?

Because, I kinda think she deserves someone better.

Please, don't mind any typos :D

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draculasdaughter #1 Oct 25, 2016 06:43:44

If she is badly in love with him, the only one who will get to suffer in the end, no matter what decision you'll make, will be only you.
I will give you an example from my personal experience.
I found out and knew for sure that my friend's boyfriend was cheating on her, I'd even seen him with my own eyes. She was very much in love with him, always telling me she could never live without him. I was tormented between telling her and ruin their rel and let it go, maybe it was just an one time slip, but he loves her.
I decided to tell her, and guess what happened? She, actually both of them accused me that I am jealous with their rel, because my rel was a long distance rel, even though she knew that he cheated on her from other sources. They continued to be together, for awhile, eventually breaking up after few months.
She wanted to befriend me again after that, but I rejected her.
Sometime love makes people to take wrong decisions, so if she is badly in love with him, I say let her to realize what is good or bad for her, by her own.

CSkies #2 Oct 23, 2016 00:15:22

If he's being such an , not even listening to her, wth is she still with him when he's mentally exhausting her? Does she wanna spend the rest of her life with someone who won't even take a step back to understand her situation (or just even TRY)?

ladywolf #3 Oct 22, 2016 19:08:50

Obviously, I don't know the people you are talking about personally but your description makes the situation look really bad. I don't think you are overreacting because that relationship sounds kinda toxic. I am not against different personalities being in a relationship but this is more than that. He ignores her when she speaks, he judges her for her faults, he doesn't make time for her and expects her to make time and adjust to him? That, from a position of a person who doesn't know these people, sounds really horrible. Not a very good relationship at all. If it were me, I would ditch his and go travel but your friend seems to have genuine emotions for him so it might be hard for her to understand that's not the way relationships are supposed to work and that she could do way better.