Is this post completely necassary?  No.  But I need to get this off my chest anyone can be mad at me if they want I don't care.

Usually I'm pretty calm when it comes to the use of the word .  I get that some people are trying to be funny and joke around with their friends.  I get it really I do.  But what I don't get is how in the world it actually is funny.  I'm sure most people understand that is a violent act that can take years to recover from and some may never recover from it.  And I'm sure they also understand that has absolutely not good sides to it despite what our society and media have shoved in our face these past few years. 

Our society teaches us to NOT get instead of DON'T and because of that I think that the perception of it has gotten a little skewered in the past years.  Now let me explain something to do as a victim of it's not something to laugh about, never has been and never will be.  Everyone told me that it was my fault when I was younger that I was vulnerable and LET him do it to me.  Now let me paint a picture for you.  You're innocent, never had before, hell you haven't even kissed that many people out of shyness.  All the sudden someone comes up and carries you away and despite your screams and protests no one comes to your aid.  Then the person rips away what innocence you had while you try not to cry and to claw your way away from them but nothing seems to work and you start to give up.  Once their satisfied they leave you in a broken heap alone and disgusted with yourself.  You cry and attempt to hurt yourself because you just feel so dirty but no matter what you do nothing makes you feel better.  And you know there is a permenant scar on your heart that will never fade. 

Now do me a favor and ask youself if you want your bias or your best friend or anyone to feel like that.  No?  Then why in the hell do you continue to say you want to them?  I don't care how old you are you should know that word is not just a word behind it is one of the most vile actions known to man.  So please, please remember that before you say "Oh I want to him/her" "I want oppa/noona to me"  "I'll him/her".  Because I garuntee you that will not make anyone love you and it will not make you love anyone.  Ever.