I am writing this because of something that occurred last night on Facebook…Let me first clarify, I respect everyone’s right to express their opinions, and I accept that everyone holds a different opinion to mine, and I am willing to accept and admit my mistakes and ignorance, and I will apologize for it.

Allkpop posted a link to an article about Hyunseung (formerly of B2ST) making his first solo TV appearance since his departure from the group, and I commented that I’m actually glad that he never joined BIGBANG, because it seemed he had quite an attitude and a lack of commitment to the group and its activities (from all the bad press he had gotten in the past regarding how he apparently ditched a fanmeet just to go on a date), that he’d just drag the whole group down with him. First of all, I believe that in the K-pop industry, it seems that one bad press is enough to do a lot of damage to one’s image, combined with several press reporting the same thing, and one solo member’s image is virtually tied with all the other members if he is also in a group, and combined with the fact that there are a lot of netizens and people out there who like to generalize every single thing, it’s very easy to affect the entire group if one seemed to have a negative image, whether one likes it or not. 

Understandably, I got quite a lot of replies, but the immediate first response that I got was from someone who threw a hissy fit, she straight up called me a and told me to off…how ‘mature’…. Fortunately, for me, the majority of the opposing comments were given by people who responded maturely, rationally and reasonably, and they clarified and explained that it was actually his sister that he was meeting at the time, when the press didn’t really clarify about it, and I accepted their views and statements, and I admitted my mistake, and I edited my comment to apologize and admit my ignorance. However, that very same person still continued on leaving comments that I’m a and telling me to off, she never once left a decent and reasonable comment (not a clarification, not an explanation, and not a defending comment in the least), but I have a thick skin to people like her, I deal with people like her every day at work, and luckily, the solicitor that I’m shadowing is also one of those, “Treat how you want to be treated”, I have seen how she handles those y and insulting clients of hers, and she would also immediately throw out any y potential client.

I eventually added that, I sincerely apologized to those that I have offended (it was unintentional), but yet still clarified and explained the matter reasonably, and responded in a mature and rational way. I’m sorry, but I don’t straight-up call someone a or tell him/her to off, just because s/he holds a different opinion to mine, not even when I feel offended, because I wasn’t raised this way, I was raised to be willing to accept different people have different opinions, no matter how you disagree, be willing to admit and accept your mistakes and apologize for it, and not jump straight to insult or attack that person. So, I frankly refused to apologize to that who just straight-up called me a and told me to off, when there are better ways to respond (and I still refuse to), and I stated clearly that my apology is only reserved for those who responded reasonably and with respect.

You can call me stubborn, but…

Treat how you want to be treated.

I respect everyone’s right to an opinion, and I accept that everyone holds a different opinion, and I will admit and accept my mistakes and ignorance, but I refuse to apologize to those who straight-up called me a and told me to off. Someone who straight-up insults and attacks me personally does not deserve my apology. What am I going to do? Apologize for what? For her insulting me, for her calling me a ? I only apologize to those with senses to respect my right to express my opinion and responded rationally. You disrespect me, you are not going to any forms of respect from me.