Heartbroken

My 7 year old just informed me that she is being bullied at school.  I am heartbroken and angry and I don't know what to do.  I can't go beating the out of the kids because jail is not where I want to spend the rest of my life.  I will talk to the teacher and school staff to see what they can do but my child is miserable.  She wants to change schools.  I will move her next year but she has to complete this year first. How am I supposed to send her there every day knowing what is going on? I don't cry often but I am a mess writing this post.  My poor baby 

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Yasmine_Hashem
#1
I'm so sorry this is happening this is happening to your sweet girl.
I think the best is to talk to the teachers, yes. And do some talk with your daughter too, try to understand why is this happening to her. Also try to tell her that she is strong and she can defend herself, she should go tell a teacher before anything starts. And try not to cry in front of her, your her strength so she will find it difficult to stand tall if she sees you breakdown in front of her. Don't make her feel like you are saying now that you don't know what to do, cause she feels safe around you, you get me?
Please, post again and say what happened with your girl.
mellyfly #2
I am so sorry this is happening! It's good that she told you though. A lot of kids don't until it's too late. I think I would ask to have a meeting with the parents, the child, and their teacher or principal (and if they have a school therapist, maybe involve them too because this is a hard discussion to have). Have a discussion about what's going on, what the school policies against bullying are, and what will be done to stop this from happening ever again. Hopefully, all parties will be invested in having a peaceful school environment.

Apart from that, reassure your child that they don't deserve to be treated like that - no one does - and that you'll do everything you can to help solve this problem. And tell her to let you know if the bullying continues! That's really important.
Siboney28
#3
Aww poor baby, this is why I really wonder if I want kids because I think I would flip and slap a child. I don't even know what to advise because I don't have any children but watching my niece I would say you have to teach her how to defend herself both physically and verbally.
KeySsamD
#4
Prayers out to you. Bullying is always a nasty situation :(
ShawnaM #5
Your a better person than me. Lol I pushed down a kid on the playground for purposely pushing my kid down. But she's two and the kid was four. I am super protective and I would be ready to beat up another kid but they are at the age where the know what they are doing. Ask to have a parent conference with the kids and they're parents and demand more supervision and that your daughter and the bullies classes be changed so they don't have to be near each other. It wouldn't hurt the threaten the kids either lol.
monkielov3r101 #6
I know that it is a horrible thing for any parent to hear, but your child is very brave already. She took the first step. She told an adult. Many kids being bullied don't tell anyone until it is too late. Have hope!!! Things will look better in the future! Perhaps she can change class rooms? Or maybe homeschool her for the rest of the school year? Good luck and tell your daughter that she is already being a brave little girl!
chica_girl180 #7
It's so sad to hear that. I was bullied when I was around that age and my mom did all she could to let me know that it was wrong. The best thing she did was to just let the other girls know that there was someone who was always going to be there for me when I needed her. She would go on class trips and sometimes offer to buy them something when they didn't have anyone there with them but she would still remind them that they were asking the mother of the girl they liked to pick on and ostracize.... there is no right way to really deal with it but supporton your daughter. Hopefully she will have a better environment at a different school.
SavorySins
#8
OMO! First thing I would do is make sure my child knows that she is beautiful regardless to what the mean bullies say. Then let her know that it's ok to tell a teacher when someone bullies her. Oftentimes, the bullied remain silent because they feel things will get worse if they tell. No, she has a right to go to school and learn and to feel SAFE while doing so.

Also, having talks with the appropriate staff will also help. And yes, self defense lessons are good too. Just be sure she understands when and when not to use it. I wish you two the best of luck and a warm fuzzy panda hug. Fighting!
Mzsennypooh #9
I'm so sorry your daughter have to go through that. I hope the rest of the time she is there the teachers and principal can stop it, until you can move her next year. You both are in my prayers.
bb_trash #10
Oh god :(
A. Obviously like you said.... talk to the school authorities see how that works out.
B. Teach your child how to defend themselves, bt i am quite skeptical about sending them to the school, are they being physically abused?
C. If it persists i am sure there are schools out there that take students mid semester. That is what my younger sister did ages ago . Putting your kid thru that is just not okay.... :(

i really hope everything works out! I will pray for you!
SHINeeEnthusiast #11
My son is 9 is being bullied on the bus. Two kids punched him last week I was so pissed I saw red.
Elleally
#12
OH MY GOD! I'm so sorry to hear this :( It is so sad when kids can't just be kids anymore. I trust you will know best what to do. Big hugs.
asianlover0 #13
I am about to suggest something you may not agree but talk to your little one about defending themself and what not it is hard but I had to do it with my brother but I taught him the right way.
CKings27 #14
Best to have a meeting with the Principal, homeroom teacher or their school Couselor. The Homeroom teacher can talk to the bully's parents about their

child's behaviour. While the Counselor can talk to the bully to see what's triggering the child to bully your daughter or others at school.

You can always have the bully removed to another classroom or suspended. You can also get a restraining order against the bully even if she or he is a minor.