Am I a nothing?

For the pass month or so my so call friend that I sit with at lunch has stopped talking to me, in fact the whole table doesn't talk to me and at first I didn't really care but when they started talking in plural and excluding me I just felt so lonely, I felt like I was nothing. My best friend doesn't have lunch the same period as me so I cut really be with her at all and I don't want to worry her and I generally thought of skipping lunch and just going to the library. I want to tell my mom about it but she'll worry to much and I don't want that. Yet I can't help but still care about what my "friends" think of me and I want to be a good friend to them even when they ignored me but it's killing me to sit there and be ignored to the point that I want to cry but I can't so I hold my tears back and today was my breaking point I can't hold them back by more . I really feel like I'm nothing worthless and a bad friend to deserve such a treatment. Why do I always let my guard down only to be hurt by those that I call my friends?

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TimeTravel10 #1 Oct 20, 2015 23:48:46

It's happened to me, but one day it will get better. Join other groups, but it can be hard. Try telling someone about it, it will make you feel better. I have been trashed talked behind me back many times and hated for things I never did but never feel that you are worthless because you're not. You can try to join conversations but if it gets to difficult then I think it's best to think about other things. Chat with other classmates?

FuryTigresse #2 Oct 20, 2015 21:41:12

It happened to me a few times in the past and the best thing to do about it is to just move on. People who randomly ignore you aren't worthy of being called 'friends'. You're not the problem, so don't worry about that, okay? They're the problem here, not you. If you were truly a bad friend and if they were truly real friends, they'd actually tell you, they'd have the honesty and the guts to tell you that. If they aren't telling you, it's because they're just not worthy of being buddies.

I know it's probably not helping to be told to move on, but really, it's the thing that helps not getting hurt afterwards. I only have three real friends, only one of which was from my big high school gang. The others are now ignoring me because I'm not on Facebook (and therefore I don't exist, because that's how it works nowadays), but I've moved on and I still get along with my only friend from then. Eventually I made other friends in a new school, only two of them so there would be less risks of stuff happening in my back, and one of them left us for a guy (typical) while the other one still talks to me. And in yet another school I made another friend who has proven himself to be a true friend several times now.

In other words, I think you shouldn't stay with people who hurt you. It's not you who are unworthy of them, they're the ones unworthy of your friendship.