my family

I live in a chinese traditional family, which seem boys important than girls, unfortunately, I am a girl. My parents doesn't really love me, they love my brothers. when I want to buy something ,they angry me saying I am useless. whatever my brothers want to buy, they buy for them. Especially my eldest brother, who is 28 years.old now, dislike me the most. He always angry me, even I do nothing wrong. when I argue back, he will slap me hard, at first I cried, but my parents didnt helped me or comfort me. So I learn not to cry in front of them. Two weeks ago, I had a big argument with my eldest brother, he took away my laptop and sold it off. I cried,but nobody with me now. when I got bullied in school, nobody helped me. I endure all the pain alone, when I finally have a best friend, she leave me alone when I need her and she went a date with.her boyfriend. you really dun believe I live in a such family. How I wish I am boy ... I really hate my eldest brother, why, why he dislike me and always hit me? I am his sister, did girlfriend important than sister?

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Faustine11 #1 Jul 16, 2015 10:27:38

My cousin is going through the same thing as you are but only both me and my sister who are girls understand the pain of my cousin , she always get scolded both in her school and at home . Well, Chinese are like that , infact I am a half Chinese

Shirakuen #2 Jul 15, 2015 13:29:17

I don't know how old you are, but do you have the possibility to talk to some kind of guidance counselor in case you're still going to school? Because I think that under no circumstances you should let other people pull you down. There is nothing wrong with being a girl and i honestly do not understand how parents can treat their children differently due to their gender. If i was in your situation, I'd go straight to the youth welfare office, or something similar since i don't really know how things are regulated in your country, simply because being in an environment in which you get physically hurt after speaking up your mind isn't something you have to tolerate.
I sincerely hope that you'll get through this and that you'll soon be able to enjoy your life.

Cuteprincess1712 #3 Jul 14, 2015 19:49:50

I've comment on your other blog and I'm going to again. I know you're suffering from family problems and friends but don't let that bring you down. You're probably like me, wanting a sweet and happy family but it's not like we think because of family. You probably have more than one brother but for me I have only one so I can really say anything, but still what he did was a little too rude. And about parent liking the son more, I understand that but it's because we girls will leave the house one day and the boys are the one that will be staying with them. Be strong! Show them you're part of the family. They will definitely turn back and ask you for help one day and notice your exist. Be strong my friend! KPOP chingus are here for you! :D

topbomlover1 #4 Jul 14, 2015 15:20:05

That is one of the worst things that I really can't tolerate. I feel so sorry for you because a family should be the ones who will always stay by your side, no matter what happens. I don't know how it is where you live but if my friends were to tell me that one of their brothers slapped them I would make them call childline because its counted as abuse where we live. It's unacceptable what your brother did to you, including selling your laptop, and if I were you I would be furious. Don't wish for something you are not. You are unique and no matter what anyone makes you feel like, you are special and significant. They are showing ist behavior if you are treated like that because you are a girl and in this age and time that is disrespectful no matter if they are a traditional family. Like the others said, work hard to become independent and hopefully soon your family will realize that they should have treated you better.

KaihleeLo #5 Jul 14, 2015 13:33:27

Stay and be strong. Work hard and become an independent individual. Don't let your family stop you from being strong~

sleepingprince #6 Jul 14, 2015 10:21:24

I felt bad and sorry for you .I hope that someday they will accept you as a part of the family and learn to be fair and treat everyone equally. Hang in there. You are a strong and brave girl .