i need you guys to answer this. (pretty please~ ^^)

Here is the sitch

You like this person for a very long time and you never got to say that you do.

This person left you all of a sudden, without any form of contact.

You kept on sending emails and letters but sadly, you don't receive any reply.

You waited and waited until you gave up.

Then, after 5 years this person comes back into your life .

So here are the questions I hope you would answer...

1. What will be your reaction?

2. Can you explain why you feel that way?

3. Can you think of any possible answers why that person left in the first place?

4. Will you forgive that person?

I really hope you can answer this.

And if you do I appreciate it. :-)

-Bianca (sarangDB5K)

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sophomoric #1 May 17, 2015 21:05:16

1) I would be surprised. Then I would be pissed and get confrontational.
2) Surprise is a natural reaction. I'm a pretty straightforward person so I would ask the person why the left and if they don't have a good reason, I would walk away permanently. Life's too short to hang onto a person who doesn't care about you.
3) None that would involve cutting off contact or leaving without saying anything first.
4) If that had a good reason, yeah. But our relationship wouldn't be the same.

Hope that helps.

dream_keeper88 #2 May 17, 2015 18:37:47

(if he left without any form of contact, why do I have the email add and home add to send letters to? 0_0 )
1. Nothing.
2. Because I moved on. I would have left all feelings I had for him in the past. I would have forgotten about it eventually.
3. Nope.
4. Nothing to forgive. He had no obligation to tell me his whereabouts. He has the right not to reply to my letter. And if I was hurt because he brushed me off or my letters, that's on me for fell for him. I would have given myself grief for such poor judgement of a person's character that I might be one who needs to forgive herself.

peachywink #3 May 17, 2015 12:06:53

I'm confused by the set up...They left without saying... but you have an address to mail them physical letters to. So it's not that they left physically, it's that they simply chose not to reply to you and cut off ties.
If they're back I want a damn reason. If I saw them I might go up and say hi if they started to apologize right then, I would forgive them. If they ignore that anything happened or when I bring up that I was hurt by it they brush it off by saying "yeah I just wasn't doing good sorry about that" F THEM. I'd just say "I'm sorry too I thought you were a better person than that" and walk away because I am done with that person forever lol.
Why? Because If they can not give a proper apology or need the reasons fully laid out and explained to them for how what they did was hurtful then they are a waste of my time. They didn't mature in the 5 years gone and I don't need a person who will throw away a relationship that easily with no communication. As for possible answers to why they did it...I'm not going to guess, I'll ask the person. If they say they don't rember -ditch them, if they shrug and say they don't really know why- DITCH THEM. Basically they don't put a lot of importance on relationships and think of the people in their life as fluid and changeing. You waited quite a while before you gave up...this person is not good for you either as a close friend or more.