Announcement

Hi guys! The reason why all my stories are not updated was because I'm currently studying abroad :) Guess which country I'm in now? haha i just started college three weeks ago and apparently I was in an accelerated intake. So...it was quite stressful and complicated and believe me when i say this: i got lost a few times while trying to find the locations of my lectures. I feel like Jinwoo now haha

Anyways it has been tough for me to adjust to new environment and i have to deal with different kinds of people. Sometimes I feel like I'm telling too much of myself to other people and I do admit I trust people too easily. I have doubts whether she is really nice or she is just a plain hidden under that fake mask of hers. I don't know and of course I'm afraid of confronting people whenever they do wrong. Do you think it's okay to ask someone to use her card just because she said she has yet to receive money from her dad? I don't want to use my card but it's the only choice i have. i think my exams are ruined because of her for she asked me to study with her in her room but she ended up doing useless stuffs and talking loudly. If my voice tends to get louder, she would ask me to be quiet whereas she herself laugh like as if the whole dorm is hers and I did not say anything. I'm so freaking pissed right now. I went to her room to get my spoons and chopsticks back but she hasn't wash them yet like wth girl you are at the dorm the whole day WHAT THE FRICK ARE YOU DOING and she ate my cup noodles :( Is she a good friend is she not? i mean she did helped me with stuffs but she is annoying me too much. pLEASE DO RESPOND TO ME I NEED TO KNOW WHETHER I SHOULD BE CLOSE TO HER I FEEL LIKE IM GOING IN SANE :(

Opps I'm sorry this is supposed to be an announcement but yeah. I'm overseas until the end of the year but I will try to update. :) furthermore there is this guy i find attractive (not in looks but personality) but i assume he likes my friend instead since he calls out her name and stick with her all the time. buT ANYWAYS I don't find him all that attractive anymore so it's fine. i LOVE YOU GUYS AND ANNYEONG <3

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grainsofbap #1 Apr 17, 2015 05:03:13

Depends. What specific things has she done for you? Because those few things might actually be really big things she does for you, but I don't know. Judging based on how you described it, it seems like she does some extreme stuff. Friendship shouldn't be based on who gets the most points, metaphorically speaking. Like you shouldn't determine your friendship because since you did these things for you means she should do same in return. Friendship should not mind those kinds of things. But if a friend is hurting you or emotionally/physically breaking you down, then I believe that it's not a friendship, it's one-sided.

In the end it's up to you to decide whether this girl is actually emotionally making you unstable as to anger, sadness, etc. Also, you should really care about her. Sometimes in a friendship we would love and care for each other so much, but sometimes it might be one-sided and then that person who cared might end up getting hurt. (Thus, leading to my point in being emotionally unstable) In fact, you should just tell her something like this;

"Hey, I feel like we're friends, right? Well, as a friend who really cares about you, just as an example, I would take a bullet for you. Would you do the same?"

You don't have to exactly ask her what is above, it's just an example. But if she says she wouldn't do the same, I would reconsider your decision on continuing to bring friends.

Also, you should ask yourself the reason why you started being friends with her and the reason why you continue to be friends. Is it because she was the first person you met? Because she's your only friend?(I assume not, since you also mention the cute boy---lucky you .... Meeting a cute boy hehe)

And lastly, if you really do care about her; ask yourself this: is getting in a fight and winning more important than loosing our friendship?

But yea, all this advice above was based on my own personal experiences. I've had all different types of friends, including yours.