SORRY IF IT IS BORING FOR YOU BUT FOR ME IT IS VERY MUCH IMPORTANT

So guys how are you? Yeah I know it has been days I have not come online and months that I haven’t updated my two on going: Birthday gift and NCIS in love. I am really sorry “bows down.” As some of you are already aware I have just moved out from my own country to India more precisely Chennai. Since I have some lateness on the syllabus I will have to toll twice more than the other students to overcome it and manage to pass this first semester else I can say goodbye to scholarship and to my studies. Anyway enough of ranting about university right? Today I am writing this blog to know your opinion about my friend’s situation. I will not mention her name but just tell me how you feel about this situation she is in and what you would advise her to do now. I know those who will reply already but this time am not just appealing to the people I talk to but to all those on my friend list because this is very important. I know I don’t talk to many of you but it is just that I don’t really know what to say and am shy. Anyway please I need the help and it’s urgent. Here is the story of my friend:

She is the only child of her parents and she was always pampered and dependent on them. Then as she grew up she wanted to learn how to be more independent and to pave her own way so she worked day and night and earned a scholarship to another country. She was very excited though the scholarship offered to her was not of the subject she preferred. However she agreed to take the scholarship and face the challenges to come. All excited she made her luggage and went abroad. Since she was the only one winning this scholarship her father accompanied her and decided to stay with her for two weeks. However when she landed she found herself in front of a major problem- the language. She knew a bit about the language. She could write it, read it and understand it but only the formal style that is the academic one, the one taught in her college. But now she is in a place where every people talk this same language but informally in the colloquial form. She has never talked this language and cannot understand a thing when people are talking to her using this particular language. When she reached her college (whereas in her country it is called university) she is the only one not knowing how to talk it. Some students of the same nationality as her already knows how to talk the local language fluently. Thus these students easily converse with the teachers and friends and mingle in the crowd flawlessly. Then there is my friend. She is the only one in her class belonging to a foreign country. Everyone around her converse in local language and no one can speak English. She is not understanding anything when the teachers are speaking to the class or explaining the lesson. She had arrived in the college two weeks late. Her classmates are very much interested in her and always wants to help her and talk to her. But this does not suit her actually. She wants to mingle in the crowd. Everyday she wake up with only a fright within her now : what if the teacher ask for my copybook. What if she interrogates me? She won’t know how to answer. She can’t take any notes since she is not understanding anything the teacher is explaining she has to work it all on her own.

She talked to her mum who keeps encouraging her and telling her she can do it. But she is just not feeling at ease there. The girl who is used to jeans, tennis and t shirt now has to wear traditional dress everyday. She has to change her habits of eating too. The girl who used to laugh and smile now spends her nights crying in fear and despair. The one who used to enjoy each day at school , who did not like to stay and did not really like vacation now is always scared, feel rejected, feels alone, feels apart, different and lives each and every day in fear. Her smile has disappear. She does not understand what to do. If she decides to return back she will have to repay every cost: the flight and the sum of money put in her account by the government. Her parents will also suffer a loss for her dad who has come with her is buying everything to make her comfortable: electric kettle, mattress, jug, not to mention the cost of admission and rent that goes over 10,000 Indian rupees… in the hostel where she lives another girl of her nationality tries to help her too. She talks to her and make her smile. But inside she keeps screaming that she does not belong to that place. She smiles she laughs but she finds that she is different. She is trying to change and be strong just to continue as her mum ask her to be. Yet she feels like she is losing herself. She no longer has time for the past time she used to love. She can’t wear the clothes in which she is the more comfortable she has to eat food that she liked but only once in a while not every day. She is surrounded in an unfamiliar environment with unfamiliar people. She feels like she is shrinking each and every day into a dark corner. She feels lost she no longer knows if she should complain to her parents or just bear it for the three years to come. She does not know what to do. She feels like she is killing herself. Each and every day as she dress her she realizes that her real nature, her real self is dying slowly and wonders if there will ever be someone to save her? After she tried to talk to her parents they advised her to take some patience and try to adapt since she is there since only one week and has gone to school only for two days. But today after her second day at school she feels like she is breaking. She observes that over girl of same nationality as her and is amazed. She really likes that girl’s courage and everything but at the same time she realizes that she can’t be like her. My friend lacks the passion that this other girl has. That girl is doing something she is really passionate for but for my friend it is different it is not her real passion. she is also so far from her only best frind and can no longer have time for what she used to love:writing, chatting, aff or music.her internet is limited too She is trying to tell herself that she has taken this decision and now has to assume it so she has decided not to cry in front of her parents anymore, not to complain anymore but once she is done talking to them she breaks down. She is wondering about what will become of her. What do you think she should do? Express herself? Give up on everything and come back? Continue the way she is and try to find some way to feel better? Give me your suggestion and how you feel about all this please.