First of all, if you are in any way triggered or hurt by the mention of Jonghyun, I'm very sorry. But if you are suffering from depression, I'd ask that you please read this. 

Yesterday I read Jonghyun's suicide note. I'm not sure if you have, or if you want to, so I'll just link to it here in case you haven't read it and want to read it.

The whole thing is worthy of analysis by people more qualified than I am, but there was something that stood out to me. Jonghyun mentions that doctors blamed his personality and that he was asked to give the reasons behind his own pain. This is somewhat familiar to me. Since I was eleven, I've been in and out of therapy. I've had great therapists and I've had terrible ones. I've been given medication that works and medication that made the problems worse. It's a tricky business I suppose. But the important part is, no good therapist would EVER ask you to figure your problems out on your own or blame your personality for them. 

If you have a therapist, a doctor, a family member, a teacher, a friend, or anyone tell you this; Fire them. Fire them immediately. 

1. It's not your personality. The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator divides personalities over 16 categories. If you're interested in this, I suggest you take their quiz and find it out. I found the result I got to be bizarrely true and suitable and so have many others. Regardless, this indicator divides us via four differences. 
Introverted vs Extraverted
Sensing vs Intuition
Thinking vs Feeling
Judging vs Perceiving

From these four categories, you end up with one of 16 personality type-results. 
The reason why I'm bringing this up is you're not the only one with your personality. Yes, you are unique that is true. You're the only one who is you. But many people have the same "foundation" if you will. Depression is on the rise, but not everyone with the same specific personality type suffers from depression or has suicidal thoughts. 

Therefore that argument is bull. It's not your personality. It's not your fault. 

Do you mind if I repeat that? Because it is absolutely not your fault. 

2. If you're talking to a therapist, it's their job to figure out why you are suffering. Not your own. 

In some cases, it can help to ask those types of questions. My most recent therapist had a model for it. If I had a negative thought, she'd have me answer four questions. What is the event that took place? Because something caused me to have this thought as a reaction. What is my thought exactly? What is the feeling this thought causes me to have? And lastly, what is my behaviour based on this process? 
This was a method to stop the bad habit I had of thinking negatively about myself. Stop midthought and go through it. Then ask yourself, is this thought true? Is it real? And with the help of my therapist, I could usually answer "no, it's not true. No, it's not my fault." 

But if my therapist was a bad therapist and asked me "why do you feel so depressed?", my answer would have been "It's my fault". Because that is what happens when you ask people who suffer from depression why they feel this way.

There is no sense in thinking "what if" and asking yourself those questions. I don't know if things would have been different if Jonghyun had a competent therapist, but I know that things can be different for people who are suffering now, and get a competent therapist. I want to make sure you know that it's not your fault for having depression, anxiety or any other mental health issue. I only have experience with those two so that's what I can talk about, but I know that it's important to have a good therapist. You deserve that. 

If none of that was in any way important for you to read, I apologize for making you sit through this. If you are suffering from depression or anything else, if you need anyone to talk to you're welcome to message me. I'll listen. 
Please be safe, everyone. 

Edit: As pointed out, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator isn't a be-all-end-all thing. But it does show us that people share a lot of traits and there will be people who share large parts enough of their personalities, that we can't say that a type of personality causes a depression or mental disorder, because not every person who has those traits has that disorder.