This is a message about the way Nyongtory shippers and other shippers alike are dealing with hate on Instagram and social media. Okay. First of all, yes I understand that there are many people (those who claim to be VIPs or shippers or whatever) spreading hate and insiduous lies about our beloved Jiyong and Seungri or propagating disgusting homophobic sentiments as "proof" their ship exists (which I must point out, mind you, are VERY hypocritical). Yes I am aware this kind of speech is at an all time high because of what's going on with Jiyong and MOTTE and his "special guest". And yes I admit it sickens me to read these things. 

BUT! Can I just say that the proper way to deal with this is NOT by flinging hate and scorn back and "exposing" their account's posts to publicly villify and shame them?! A lot of these people leaving comments are only small, random accounts, so there's no point even wasting your energy on them. Yeah sure you can reply to their comment (IN A TACTFUL COURTEOUS MANNER (with no derisive subtext please)) to explain your point of view. Consider for a second how, say, a Daragon shipper feels. They are so entrenched in the belief that "Daragon is real" that any dispute to that claim will make them feel very hurt. If someone mentions that they don't believe in Nyongtory, yeah it hurts me too but I can't really do anything about their opinion. I can share my opinion, but it doesn't necessarily mean it will change theirs. To Applers, or any shipper, it would enrage them and hurt their pride, like how it would hurt my pride in the case of Nyongtory, if we called them names like "delusional". Some people, no matter who they ship, will react in the extreme and just explode with hatred and rage. 

I wish to encourage everyone not to behave in a contemptible manner. Shoving your opinions down someone's throat is never going to do any good; they are likely to want to punch you in the face. What people appreciate is being spoken to in a diplomatic and considerate way! Do you really want to paint a bad name for Nyongtory shippers? We don't want a reputation for going around villiying anyone who contradicts our opinions and beliefs. If another shipper/person is treating you with utter disrespect, don't stoop so low as them and don't treat them in the same contemptuous way. Show them how to be polite and respectful so that they absolutely cannot hate on you or your opinion. Because having to be defensive to a point that it's hostile shows how little faith and doubt you have in your own opinion. Do you know that responding to hate with more hate is likely to make the situation much, much worse, and unnecessarily at that? It's better to leave the argument on a respectful note than do things that hurt people. As much as you feel like you've "lost", pride is not as important as being respectful. Just know that you are the better person who can walk away from the argument still feeling self-assured. Who cares what they think? Most importantly, if you and someone have a dispute, no need to publicly share it and play the name-and-shame game. Because words are often twisted and people are portrayed in the wrong light that way, and can I just remind you that cyberbullying is not tolerated and you could very well be harming a person's self-esteem and emotions. Just because you can't see them doesn't mean you aren't hurting them. And we don't want to hurt people. We espouse love and acceptance, so be tolerant of all opinions, even if they may seem like the most deluded thing you've ever heard. And if someone is spewing hate on your page, take it in stride and deescalate the tension as best you can. Report their comment on Instagram if you have to. Block them if you must. Don't need to tell the world. 

The truth is? As much as I have maximum faith in Nyongtory, we can never ascertain anything to be true. We aren't Jiyong or Seungri, and neither are we their close friends or family. We don't know every single thing that goes on in their lives. It's all good and fun to speculate, but always remember to keep an open mind and not be too haughty about it. I'm not trying to diss anyone, because this is a message to myself too. I admit it. What others would consider "delusions", I have them too. I will also admit I mentally (and to my friends) diss Daragon shippers and other GD ships (who are not Nyongtory) a LOOOOT, but I try to make sure I don't DIRECTLY attack anyone and target any unrelated aspects about them as a person because of their opinion. 

To sum up, don't waste your energy on people who are not worth it. If you absolutely are itching with the need to speak out against them, be nice. Or at least polite. No one likes being spoken to meanly. It doesn't support your opinion if you can't explain it in a civil way. And absolutely don't go to the extents of branding a scarlet letter on their account so everyone can throw rocks at them. Support Nyongtory and respect everyone, even if they are undeserving of respect. This goes for all people: Nyongtory shippers, Daragon shippers, non-shippers, VIPs. We're all still human.

If you need an example of how to handle hate, check out this dude: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PTgDrp76qOs 

Hope you guys have a nice day, remember that there's no point clinging onto hatred because it will poison your heart, and I hope I didn't offend anyone in this post because it was not my intention. I don't claim to be a saint, because I'm not, but I just want everyone to be nicer to each other :)

-Charlene

P.S. If you agree with my words here, I hope you can spread the message on Instagram and stuff? ^^ Just so everyone can know.