Never

In light of me sleeping close 20 hours a day and my therapist telling me that's not okay, I'm writing this.

 

I'm too ugly to be loved. It doesn't matter what I do, I'm always the ugly friend on the side and never the love interest. I've never had my first kiss or even just a guy hold my hand on purpose.

 

Am I really that ugly that people choose to ignore me instead of confronting me? Am I that pathetic?

 

All I've ever wanted was to feel loved yet every attempt I take ends with me crying at 2am cursing the world for having made me catch feelings for someome who fancied someone else, specifically my single friends, more than me.

 

I'm not good at expressing my feelings so maybe I do come off as a bit harsh at times, but that shouldn't mean for you to seek for the stupid pretty girl when I'm here for you just the same. I break a bit more every time I see this occur in front of my eyes and let me tell you, I'm beyond repair.

 

Hell, the one time I find a fanboy who is close to my age and is everything I've been looking for, he falls for my best friend and shatters me beyond belief.

 

I'm tired of this feeling. I'm 18 years old. I just want this pain to stop.

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hyounnie
#1
I think don't pressure yourself too much. You are still young and love will come someday. Don't call yourself ugly. You must learn to love yourself first before anyone. Honestly, I am already 26 and I've been single for like 5 years, I think. Although I am envious with my best friends' love lives but hey! I love my life. I am single and I am working. I have time for myself and my family. Love will come eventually. Just like my friends say, "Love will find you, you just wait for it." ;)
-hyphen-
#2
Honey, I've never seen an ugly person. Instead of negative things, try to focus on good things. I bet your therapist have said that like 100 times. There's something good in every single situation, thing and person. Find that thing and then highlight it and boom you're pretty.

Also, if you feel prettier, you look prettier. Get a new haircut, wear beautiful things, buy shampoo that smells like paradise or lovely eye shadow. Or it can be very simple thing, like lotion. I have mango lotion and god that scent kills me, I'm saving it for the times when I feel very low and then I just put it all over my body and feel better because I smell like an angel. When you feel good you also become more confident and it makes you only prettier!

I'm just saying, if you really feel ugly, you can change it by doing stuff. Of course you'll have to accept you as well, but sometimes small change is good. Yoga, fresh air and stress-free lifestyle is good for your skin, also drink water and use sun cream and lotion to keep your skin beautiful. Healthy diet is very important, eat a lot of vegetables, you'll get vitamins and skin likes vegetables. Try to avoid sugar, too much sugar is not only bad for skin but also your organs! Don't smoke or drink alcohol. Take good care of your hair by using conditioner and hair masks and avoiding using too much hair spay etc things that might damage your hair.

New hobby might also help, how about taking up zumba, blogging or maybe an instrument? You could also study a new language, there's so many apps and books. I started Swahili today, it's otherwise very nice, but Duolingo has no audio for Swahili yet T.T

All best for you!
sleepingprince
#3
Also 18 is very young and you have alot more to experience and plenty of chances waiting for you . You still have college where you can meet many different people , then you have working life as well... So i dont think you should be worrying too much about dating life right now.. Also go meet the right person and you'l never have to doubt on yourself ever again. I hope that you'l get better and have more confidence. Believe in yourself . All the best .
sleepingprince
#4
I think its important for you to first accept yourself for who you are. You dont need people's acceptance for being who you are and how you look . Instead of focusing too much on appearance wise , you can always show people the other good sides of yours too like your personality . I think people dont only fall in love with looks these days because generally humans are much more than what they think they are. Self confidence is just as important. You can always try to improve or make yourself look and feel better by exercising to maintain your weight , learn to dress decently and also maybe learn some make up and grooming :) A little bit of effort will do.