So I'm incredibly late to this and don't know if you're still interested in any type of reply, but I'd still like to give my two cents. You probably don't remember who I am as we haven't talked much outside of sporadic comments, but that doesn't bother me.

I'm 20 now (turning 21 this year), and have gone through different phases in my life. Until I was around 17, I really didn't like the idea of drinking at all. I just couldn't understand how something that can be so negative to both the body and mind could be something young people so easily delved into. Not to say, most people around me started going to clubs, which I also didn't participate in. That's something I still don't like today, because it makes me feel incredibly awkward. I don't dance, I find it hard talking to new people, not interested in the hook-up side of it etc. Still, when I was around 17 (forgot to mention, legal drinking age isn't really respected in my country) I was at a type of open-air party that's celebrated every year, and one friend insisted we get a relatively big drink for us both before I leave. I just wanted to go home so I gave in and shared that one drink. In the end, I didn't actually mind the effect it had on me and stayed for a while longer (not drinking anything else). From that moment on until recently started that's what I did, I still didn't go to clubs but I had some drinks or beers if I was at house parties or other events. This year though, I've been on a type of medication that really doesn't allow me to drink. I had a couple beers one night when I was still unaware of it and had the worst time. I didn't pass out or anything, but as my doctor has explained now, the effect of the alcohol is practically tripled and my stomach really couldn't process it.

Conclusion, I've decided not to drink at all to spare myself the consequences. Now that I don't drink, I experience what it's like when hanging out with friends. People are really insistent, aren't they? I don't want to talk about my medical problems with certain people so I try to just explain I'd rather not drink much, but they still try to shove beers in your face. Even some nights that I was the designated driver they tried to make me drink. Like, what? lol Luckily enough those are mostly friends of friends and not important people to me.

I'm sorry for the long explanation about me, but I wanted you to know where I stand before I comment on your situation. Although it's not been a moral problem for me for years, I've been on both sides of the spectrum when it comes to it.

You remind me of my ex-girlfriend, because she also used to hate drinking with a passion. Not because of any trauma, she just did. It wasn't much of a problem since I rarely drank, but we still had some discussions about it. In the end I just didn't drink in front of her (until she started drinking too eventually) and contacted her every once in a while to reassure her I was being safe when she wasn't around and I was out with some other friends.

The loneliness aspect of it all is very hard to deal with though. Leaving the drinking aside, not going to clubs while all other friends do has always made me feel somewhat outcasted, even though no one has told me to in a long while. I struggle with the same thing with my current gf, because although she doesn't drink either due to health reasons, she does like going out to clubs and bars. She hasn't while we've been together because there just hasn't been a right time, but I know she likes to and will eventually. She also wants to go with me and I'm terrified, not because I think I'll have an awful time, but because I don't have any experience with that and it might be the confirmation that it's something she likes that I'll never be able to share. Enough about me lol I'm so sorry I keep rambling orz So yes, loneliness, I get you. It's just about the way you treat that loneliness. The feeling will still be there, but it should not be accompanied by any type of anger. I'm sure you've talked with your gf (be it before or after this post), but if you haven't gone in-depth try explaining how you feel about it and the reason it upsets you so much. Although that doesn't have to change what she ends up doing, just having her reassuring you she'll be safe will help. Alcohol is all about that, being safe.

If you're the only sober one among your close friends and have no one to talk to while you're feeling bad, just ramble anywhere on the internet. Talk to people online, write a blog-post, do anything to take your mind off things or let steam out. If the feeling is just too bad to handle, that's ok. Try to sleep and let the night go by, anything that helps. If you eventually find other people from your area that don't drink, that will surely help. I'd even try asking friends if they know anyone who doesn't drink, that's already a bonding factor.

Sorry for the incredibly long, incredibly late comment! I know we don't know each other much if at all, but I'm always here to listen and try to help if you ever need anything at all. Stay strong and good luck with everything :)

awwww my poor baby. it's ok if u just like to exercise, have a meal, have a drink with friends. that's totally normally because i'm the same. i rather hang out with people casually than be at a crowded party with people i don't know. engaging in fun convo and casual hangouts are good ways to keep a long lasting friendship and i don't see a problem in that. with that said, parties aren't necessarily bad either but you have to be mindful of whose party you're attending and when you feel like you need to leave. i rather hangout with friends and get some food or watch a movie or sit and talk for hours. but i've been to parties where there were alcohol and the likes involved but i stick to my group of friends, stand by my morals of not drinking, and leave before it gets too late and too rowdy. you're never lonely sweetheart ♡

hey hey, i'm glad to see you back here : )
well probably you don't remember who i am. but we've chatted a little a few years back. and don't worry, i could relate 100% to your thoughts during the process of reading through your words. we're the same age, and trust me. i agree with you totally, because i don't see how the influence of alcohol will benefit anyone in life. you know, having a family that's in an industry at revolves around drinks 24/7. i've seen all types of outcomes under the influence of alcohol, none were good of course. at first, i thought my perspective would be change due to the environment that i was revolved in. but i realised that i was wrong, i was just trying too hard to get myself to like something that i would never like.

and because i'm 18, my friends (most being older than me) they were all disappointed and upset when they found out that i spent most of my 18th at work, and after work i just went home; chilling. and they treated me as if it is a sin to not drink during 18th. like wtf, why is legal age all about drinking? drinking contributes to nothing good in life.

but really, now that you know there are many likeminded people out there supporting you. just live your life the way you want, and one day. those alcoholics will finally realised how badly alcohol screwed things up for them.

Hey, so i saw this because apparently we're friends, but i dont really remember who you are, and im sure its the same for you, so you can just ignore me if you want, but i figure I'll throw a little food for thought in here.
Im just wondering if these people who throw and hang out at parties are your friends, or just people you know? If theyre your friends, then communication is the issue here, let them know why youre having the troubles you do, how it makes you feel, and make alternate arrangements. Ask them out for coffee or just to hang out, maybe one on one. It worked for me, i was rather introverted and got exhausted at parties, and sometimes i felt left out because i wasnt there when something happened at a party, all those injokes you miss out on, but i guess thats life. I also made more friends that were like minded to me, 18-21 were my university days, every half year i had new classes, new opportunities to meet people. Take them, talk to people, make more friends who are like you. If youre not in a place where you can easily make new friends, then the internet is a great place (once you avoid all the weirdos), tumblr, aff, you can find people with similar interests to you.
Otherwise, its still possible to enjoy parties without drinking. My circle had a few like that, they usually used the excuse that they were driving to get people to stop bothering them about drinking, but i take it its the atmosphere that bothers you. Like i said, communication, especially to your gf, sounds trite, but really a lot of issues are solved this way. Anyway, think ive rambled for long enough. If you ever feel like it, im always an open ear, sometimes ranting to strangers is cathartic

Hey duddete....first of all I'm happy that you're back! Second, I'm sure you forgot who I am XD you got one tough problem there.... You could try going out of your comfort zone and try relating with your party friends especially your gf. And if you still feel lonely, then stop. Be open with your gf. Communication is the key to a successful relationship ;)

PS GxG rocks :D