My elder bro and me has never been expressive towards each other since childhood. I kind of always felt that "if he can then why can't I" for eg: if he gets to learn to drive then y can't i, if he gets to buy a new cellphone at high school then why cant I after my high school etc etc. I never considered the situation and condition of our family. And after so many downs in our family life Now i feel i understand and love my fam such as elder bro including others more. But everytime i talk with him on phone and he says something jokingly i reply something harsh i dont really mean it i say it in a joking way but i feel he gets hurt coz after that he stops talking to me and gets busy in his own work while i talk with mom or i am just overthinking. But i can really sense it that it went wrong kina feeling. please give some advice on this genuinely i need it.