It's all about being a player. Who says playing was no fun?? It is fun! Cheating is not the act for getting it on with some strange. It's the act of not being present and loving with your avowed partner. To cheat is to believe there's a way bring present, a way around being yourself, a way around the cosmos. Which is downright stupid seeing as everything, alas, is the cosmos. There's no way around it because you are it.