To Sungmin, Super Junior and ELF
Well, where to start?
First, I hope my point of view won't offend someone, it isn't my intention to hurt anyone.
Like with all things in life, this isn't black and white. There is no right and wrong. Just a lot of feelings, in this case, hurt feelings.
I do understand ELF who feel betrayed. As far as I'm informed, it's not the marriage that is the issue but the way Sungmin handled it. I guess most ELF just wanted him to be the one to tell them, to trust them. Trust is important. It takes a long time to create trust, yet it's so easily broken. Disappointment is such a harsh feeling and it can shatter a lot.
ELF are strong yet oh so vulnerable. Some are so devoted cause at a crucial and bad time in their life they found a haven in super junior. Now they feel that haven was false.
I think this was equally hard on Sungmin. He fell in love. I can imagine how happy yet scared he must have been the past months. Happy cause he found someone and scared to death of fans taking it bad, for possibly ruining the dream of the members. The guilt must have been awful. I also understand his behaviour. Even the signature issue. God, the ridiculous stuff I do cause I'm in love. I see how it lit up his life so much he had to put her in there. I don't believe there was any malicious intent, it just shows how hopelessly in love he is. He must feel so torn.
And me? I feel sadened. I understand all parties. The hurt and angry ELF. The other ELF that can't believe the first group and rage on them and finally Sungmin, stuck in the mess he partially created out of helplessness.
Love is so beautiful. I hope you all experience it in life. I hope the ones hurt will heal and I hope Sungmin has a happy married life and will be blessed with children if he wants any.
Big hug,
Lillie
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