probably too personal but...

I really need to vent but I don't really want to talk to any family or friends about it yet.

My boyfriend cheated on me and he told me about it. I always thought I would be the girl that just walked away but now that it actually happened I pretty much feel really confused. We've been dating over 3 years which is forever when you're in your 20s. I spend a lot of time with his family, his parents have basically accepted me as their daughter. 

I hate that he was with another girl but I feel like I would hate throwing away everything we have even more. I told him I needed time to think but the more I think I just get even more frustrated. 

I just needed to write down these thoughts because I feel like my mind is going to explode.

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MelChoiG #1
Hi! Am sorry that happend to you, it's the worst feeling ever. From my personal experience I would say let him go. I gave my ex one change after he cheated for the first time and he didn't it again in less than a year but with someone closer to me. (My parents god daughter)

It's hard to let a relationship go but think really really really good about it and make a decision. There is no right or wrong no matter what people say, it's your happiness that matters.
redmermaid #2
I'm sorry to hear that, noone supposed to be betrayed like that, but I get ur point, I know how it feels, what matters is which one u prefer, and is it okay for u to be cheated again (if u go back to him). anywhoo it's just my opinion, chin up girl *virtual hug
BeVictorious #3
Wow. Umm. I think you need to really think about this. Dont rush it or you might regret it. It all comes down to love and trust. Do you love him enough to overlook this? if you do, can you trust him after this?

Dont look at the time you had with him. 3 years might seem alot but its not, starting over might seem daunting but its better than remaining in an unhappy relationship. I had a friend who allowed her relationship to span 10 yrs before opening her eyes to the fact that things would never change and using time and history doesnt make it better.

Just think things thoroughly through. Its ok to be hurt, your head would hurt, your heart will ache but hopefully you'll arrive at a decision that will make you happy. Goodluck.
Yonghyunism #4
You take care of yourself first.... Writing about it is a really good way to vent your feelings. Its good you asked for space to think, this will give him a chance to think about what he did as well. Do you still see yourself taking him back not counting the time you've already spent together? Guess that would be a good question to ponder...
kloweanime #5
Wow, that's a tough one. But from my own ppersonal experience I would end it or at least take a break to get your feelings in order. My ex did the same thing and I took him back twice, not saying all men are the same. But when you truly love and value something you do your best not to screw it up. And he had a choice of cheating or not. But ultimately its up to you. Just be honest with yourself and ask yourself if you can ever really trust him again, cause you can't have no kind of relationship without it....sorry for my ramble. Hope I didn't confuse you more.
gunseed #6
:( did he cheat on you because he liked the other girl or was it a one night stand?
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