Insensitivity at its finest

Warning: This post contains rants about my personal life. I am confident enough that nobody I know in real life will be able to read this because *flips hair they do not belong to this world that I do. The names of the individuals stated are real. I can be very mean when I want to. 

 

I am currently living with my college friends, two of them, my sister, her bestfriend, and another close friend. Originally my sister and I live with my aunt, but we moved out last year because we would like to experience living on our own. At first, everything worked out pretty well; we treat one another as sisters. We pray together, eat together, we even share our things with each other. But lately, the freedom we have from living without adult supervision is getting out of hand.

 

My friend Marie has a boyfriend. Her backstory? She moved in to our unit because her parents don't want her living with the boyfriends of her cousins (because her cousins decided to live with their boyfriends in their last year in college) so we took her in. Paul, her boyfriend, is always welcome to our home for visits. But it seems that he took the "feel at home" very seriously. Every daynight he comes over for dinner, and stays as late as 11pm. I could understand if he's studying with Marie or tutoring her, but no, he stays just to watch anime and play games with annoying sounds at max volume. And his voice is so loud and deep even the heaviest sleeper would wake up when he speaks. I'm not exaggerating. He talks nonstop. And he annoys the hell out of me every chance he gets, even if he sees that I'm actually studying. If I have the death note, he would be first in my list.

 

Joy is another friend of mine that doesn't like to have suitors. She pledged that she will never have a boyfriend, not until graduation. But here comes John, her classmate that courts her. She said she would not entertain him. But Marie, this sweet girl named Marie, pushes John to Joy every chance she could get. Marie invites John and Paul at home for dinner (so they would eat like a couple on double date maybe). But oh, I almost forgot that they do not only go there for dinner. Sometimes, when we have no class, they will come and visit as well, spending all day talking and laughing and flirting.  Now there are two guys staying at our house until 11pm. (almost 23/6 ugh) So much for "I will not entertain him." D:

 

And lastly, Yvonn. She loves to invite her friends to come over for movie marathons and such. It' s okay actually, because who are we to stop their bonding time? But the thing that we don't like is that she invites them inside our room, lying in our own beds. There's even a time when we were surprised because we saw her frends inside our room without Yvonn. Apparently, she gave her friends the key and let them inside our unit without telling us. Imagine our shock and disappointment.

 

My issue here is privacy and insensitivity. 

As the one living in this house, I am the one who retreats just to give them (Marie and Joy and lovers) space. I can't cook because they spend 2 hours at most cooking their food (flirty moments included). I can't eat on time becuase they took up the whole dinner table like no one is on queue. I can't study properly because they talk too loud and giggle and laugh like no one else is at home. My study time is being delayed because they use my study area for movie viewing and other things. I can't change my clothes in my own room because they (Yvonn's friends) are staying inside, cozily sprawled out in our beds.

 

We addressed this issue and talked about this. And our solution is just to split up and live separately. My sister and I are going back to our aunt's. I don't know about the others, and I wouldn't like to now. I would like to spare the remaining whatever we have, and probably work something out to stay as close as before. Things were settled, and I know that we came to the same terms.

 

Tomorrow is the last day for the summer term, and the last day of exams. Tomorrow we are moving out.

 

I thought I can review peacefully this night. I thought I would be able to concentrate because everyone else will study too. Surprise, surprise, I was wrong.

Paul and John came for dinner again. (I'm getting tired of this) Why? Don't they have exams for tomorrow? Apparently they don't. So they decided to come over and ruin my night. Joy asked them when will they leave, John answered, this is a direct quotation from his oh-so smart mouth, "Later. I'm not disturbing anyone anyway."

Wow. The nerve of this guy to say things like I haven't slammed everything I see so they could feel that their presence are unwanted. That threw me over the edge. I am having a fever and I still have to study for my exams for tomorrow, yet I have to deal with these kind of things because they are so inconsiderate to care. And I wasted one hour of my life writing this blog post, which is a first for me because I never wrote a hate post.

 

Huh.

 

Finally they decided to leave as of 10:30 pm PhST. They bid me a farewell and wished me a good night. I gave them a cold bye without looking at them. I am pissed, so they can't expect me to smile and wave them a real good bye.

 

I was close to talking to them (Marie and Joy and lovers) about this again, but I held my horses and decided to let it go, for now. It's our last night together, after all. 

 

After writing this post, it felt good to let it all out. 

 

I'm okay now. Now I'll study for my exams tomorrow. Wish me an insane amount of luck and concentration.

 

Dark chocolate, anyone?

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shining_writer #1
Tell them, scream in their faces if there is a need to. The thing here is that they are disrespecting you, when their presence affects your lives so much. This needs to be addressed as they have obviously crossed boundaries.

Good thing you decided to do something about it.