dont u worry, u arent alone in those scoldings. a high skool student, rite?
i kno this wil b too much, i ll share u my moms scoldings..
- A+ grades if it didnt happen: threatened, spanked, grounded, TV locked..
- compared to siblings, to successful working cousins, to co-workers' children (who i dont kno), in terms of education & looks, because im fat
- (most hated) wen mom tells of a co-workers' children's situation & gives advices; that r completely different wen it comes to me... my mom tells her co-workers that it is the child's/children's future & not urs (to her co-workers)
- constantly persuades to take 1 certain occupation & that 1 ONLY!

Even now, as a 3rd yr college student, im still controlled by my mother. i let her persuasion speech get to me to become a PHARMACIST!!! i dont even lyk chemistry/biology/biochemistry that much... but im a biochem major.
i recently went to see my college counselor... to the point, my counselor was indicating that I might need to change majors because of my lacking grades (my mom doesn't know that im lagging)... So, I constantly question myself:
1. Why in the hell am I in BIOCHEMISTRY!?!
2. Am I happy or will I be happy as a pre-pharmacist?
3. Am I strong/brave enough to stand up to my mother?
For #1 and #2... bcuz i didnt want to disappoint my mom... i mean, ive heard & seen her disappoint wen things dont go the way my mom wants. in some way, I think my reason for allowing my mom control my lyf is bcuz im not ready or I want return the hard work my mom has done for me, even if my happiness may not happen. As for the #3, I've tried numerous times... but my mom never quite listens... I mean, she hears me, but, somehow, she doesnt/wont understand my side.

im sharing this to u.. bcuz i didnt want to brag but i wanted evry1 to understand that it is ur lyf.. im a college student & i still hav a hard tym opening up to my parents. I suggest to evry1, who has difficult tym abt such experiences, to hav the courage to explain ur side. jst the way feel abt their scoldings, that u understand they (parents) jst wants whats the best for us (children). I kno the frustrations, wen parents dont listen well, but still, try as much as possible. even im still trying to explain my side thats something involves me & my future.

also, keep this in mind.. bcuz i do this.. "u r fortunate to eat, drink, study & live." & "jst keep on trying" So, HWAITING!!! 화이칭!!!!!.

Why do we need to be how our parents want us to be??
I need to be better than my brother and my cousins and they don't know how tiring it is to study so much but get nothing back.I can so much relate to this.We do know our parents work hard for our future but still . . . . .

STAY STRONG HWAITING!!!!

Same here!!! You know......i have to study even in these hols...so i sing...

Do you talk to your mom a lot?
Can you tell her how you feel?
You don't have to leave the house to be free, it sounds simple but it's complicated
Don't worry I actually understand cuz my parents are like that
Did you try to hear their side of the story?
If you want to be something else say something like "I can't be an artist because I'm just not talented in art, I don't want to be stuck doing something I hate for the rest of my life, I want to be a ....."
And you don't need to yell to make them hear your voice you just need to calmly tell them
And also please state that you chose your future so you will face those consequences because your parents aren't gonna be there forever
So yea don't run away just find the courage to talk to them

dont worry chingu.. well, i actually have pretty same experience with you... i once a top student but my grade gradually dropped.. it hurts to hear my mom nags but i bear it.. in high school i was always in the first class until the final year, i dropped to second class. my mom really mad at me and all i need to do us study, extra class and study again.. but i'm not a good girls anyway.. hehehe... even though i feel tortured with those extra class but i just follow the flow and enjoy my life... hehehehe....

my advice dear, tried to fulfill what your mom wants, be yourself and enjoy your life. i know it hard to do what you have no interest with but believe me, someday you'll appreciate what your mom has done to you... ^^
feel free to talk to me anytime... :))

Dont worry sis.. Ur mom wants u to be the best in everything becoz she loves u a lot.. She compares u wit ur oppa.. But ur parents loves u more than that guy,right?ur parents wants u to be an artist.. But,u r not interested in tat.. Nothing to worry.. Put all ur efforts and work hard to shine in ur area of interest.. Make ur parents to be proud of u.. Hard work never fails.. Make ur dream comes true.. Getting top in academics is a good thing.. But only tat is not enough.. Ther r lot of other stuffs in tis world..All the best .. And then,dont loose ur friendship.. Take care

Ani~ i don't want to hurt your feeling Lullu. but, yes! I'm a top girl in class for academic.

And you know what? Being a top student is not easy. It's not fun at all. It's hurt. When, my marks down, everyone will look weirdly at me. I'm so stress. My head is hurt every time. as a top, you can't do anything that you like. Everyone will notice when you're doing like the others do. It's hard for me to life.

For me, being an average student is much better than be a top student.

I hope you can bear it and try your best to increase your level. Every mom wants their child be a top. Believe me

Lullu.. Don't be like that :)
Be patience. How ever she is your mother. Maybe she is forget. Just try to ease yourself.

I know how you feel. My mom is the same like urs. She wants me to be the best in EVERYTHING. She keeps on comparing me to my friend who is 10 times better than me.