I am a professional single. I am 27 and had never been in any relationship before. And I won't count the one from highschool because I prety mich treat the 2 like no mere friends.🤣 

One of my little brother, is in a relationship. And his girlfriend had confide to me about my brother. I had to admit, my little brother is pretty much a player, and I hate him for that. Don't ask me why am I never in a relationship. My brother's player self is one of the reason. 

I'm afraid of men, if that make sense. I actually felt awkward and claustrophobic around men, other than my brothers. I feel like they are the same even when I know they're not. 

From the way my brother's girlfriend had been telling me, it's actually pretty obvious what is the problems with their relationship. 

PROBLEMS. Bolding that S. 

1. She is too insecure. Understandable especially my little brother is one of the type of that I hate so much. 

2. Lack of communication. This is a problem that they should fix themselves. 

3. She's too forceful. She had been telling me that she ask my brother everyday, means that constantly asking if he loves her, or being sincere with her. And that is a big problem there. 

They have less push and pull game, and very much less give and take in their relationship. And from what I've heard, especially from her part, she seems like she didn't understand men in general yet, not only my brother. Well, she's pretty young so I get it. She's only 20. 

It seems like from what she told me, she hadn't seen the worst and the bad side of my brother, which amuse me. They've been together for a year and a half. And it sounds like she refuse to look at the bad side of my brother. I'm not saying that as a bad thing but the more she refuse to see that, it would be harder to fix what's lacking in their relationship. That's my opinion on it, not as a ln older sister, but as a woman. 

4. My brother is an , a jackass and an idiot. His girlfriend is really pretty and a nice girl but here he is playing and toying around with her by having so many girl in his phone that sometimes I wanted to disown him. I'm actually walking on an eggshell around him this 2 weeks because I got to know something that made me very mad from his girlfriend.

Something that I never expect and that made me so dissapointed in him. And also her. I actually mad at both of them but I can't bear to lash it out. It was their fault and when I got to know about it from her, I was really mad that I was speechless. 

She didn't exactly told me clearly but I can be very quick witted to realize what she meant so I get it right away that day. I didn't talk to my brother for 3 days straight and whenever I look at him, I seriously wanted to slap him. 

But his girlfriend was begging to me not to tell my brother that she had told me that and I've never felt so sinful before because I can't speak out loud. 

I am pretty well known as the blunt and honest to the core. I say and tell what's on my mind but when I heard this things, I feel like I'm carrying a sin when I'm not the one who did it. 

Wanna know what advice I gave to my little brother's girlfriend? I told her to leave my brother. Not that I hate her. I love her like my little sister but my brother isn't someone that worth her tears and pain. Why would she hurt herself for a boy that didn't have any sense of being serious like that? I know, she loves him but does he do the same? I already told her everything from my perspective and advice. If she still love him and want to hold on to that relationship, then go on. And if she wanted to let it go, very much respected. 

As the final words that I told her, if they happen to fight again and she tell me the same thing again, do not come to me anymore, because I already told her everything from my perspective. There's no use coming to me for the same things to happen again because I'm just gonna tell and advice her of the same thing. 

To be honest, I'm tired of being a consult to other people's relationship. I know why they always come to me. Simply because I am observant and I am a 'stranger' to their relationship. 

But I think I've seen enough of people's relationship problems. That I think at this point, I am a professional love advisor.😂 

My older sister always told me that I am a good listener, a good advisor and a good speaker. The only thing that I am not good at is trusting people and being in a relationship. 

Guess what? I am actually not one to argue but when she told me I am a good advisor, I disagree. I am not a good advisor. In the sense of speaking, I am good but advising? Bad at it. I am an honest one with a laser tied to my tongue, how do I give good advice to people without hurting them? 

I am the type who would say things that is in ugly truth. It was hardly the beautiful lie. 

I live my life trying to keep it as real as it is. It would hurt me less. 🙂