Your respond is helpful.

First of all, I will like to thank who ever you are, reading right now for using your time to read something that isn't much important. 

I will really appreciate if you can give tips or advice. 

 

To start I'm just going to throw these questions out there: 

 

How did you know what you want to become in the future?

 

How did you pick your major/career in college? (for those who are students in college)

 

I can't seem to choose mine, what do I do? Any tips? Advice? (Just anything you think will help)

 

 

Feel free to answer all, but please do answer the last one. 

 

I am currently a senior who will be going to my first year of college next year fall (2018) and I have to start on my college applications very soon. 

However, I can't choose a major at all. 

I am currently in the Nursing/CNA program at my high school. I can just become a CNA after passing my CNA test. But after studying nursing for 3 years I have learned that nursing doesn't fit me. I am fated to be somewhere else, but I don't know where. I have been thinking what will suit me and what I might want to become since June but nothing pops up in my mind at all. 

I don't want to waste money and units on a major that I'm likely going to change. My family has a low income so I don't want to waste any of the financial aid that I will be qualify for since I'm qualify for some certian years only. 

I hate myself for wanting to aim for something that will give me a big income, had a bad past with money. I think that's why I'm really aggressive when it comes to money. 

Sometimes, I tell myself to just continue nursing and go for a RN, which have a pretty good income for me and my family in the future. But I don't want to wake up every morning going to a job I don't love. I would rather wake up every morning looking forward to my day and job. 

 

I used to want to become a teacher, but somehow after finishing elementary school, I've change my mind. Then I entered my high school which have a nursing program. I didn't go to my school for the nursing program but just for the school because it's one of the best school in my city. 

 

No matter how much I question myself what I want to become, only one answer pops up in my mind. And that's not something that will bring me money for my future. 

It's always someone who I always wanted to become. No one knows about this, not even my family. 

The Korean drama "Fight for My Way" have really made me realize that this is the "someone" I want to become. 

A mom. I want to become a mom. I know it sounds stupid but it's something really special for me. 

I want to become a good wife for my future husband and the best mom for my kids. Always a thing I dream of having, my own and warm family. (This part is just rambling, sorry for it.)

 

But this is not going to get me anywhere. I need a job for my future. 

For those of you who are willing to give tips and advice please give advices about college, majors, and ects. Or anything about college. 

I'm really stressing right now since I'm starting on college applications soon and don't want to waste money and time. 

Even a little thing will do, it could help a lot. I really appreciate it. :D 

 

Sorry if there are any mistakes, English is not my first language. 

 

I want to share this song, since it's been a cure to me lately. 

 

 

 

Thank you. 

- Cuteprincess1712

 

 

 

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Nubci4 #1
I know my situation won't help you, but I've always wanted to become a musician, writer, or a teacher as well. But, my parents greatly disagreed on that, saying that I'll never earn enough money. Eventually, I threw all my dreams away and began living for my parents because I had to look at reality. Was I going to continue to let my parents live a poor lifestyle and do what I love? Or was I going to give my parents the best life they could ever have by doing what I despise? I chose the latter even though I'm nearly in despair everyday. Business HAS to be my thing since my parents own a business. I'm the youngest in the family. None of my siblings want it, and so it's all up to me. I'm the only one that is willing to throw away their future for this business that I never wanted in the first place. Sometimes, significant sacrifices have to be made, like our future.

But, my heart chose this path because I believed that it was the right path. What you should do is look at the reality of the situation. I used to be told so many times to do what I love, so it'll make me happy, but I think what really makes me happy is my parents' happiness, and thus the decision was made.
sya_chocolate #2
Hello, I understand how you feel. Im like that too. In my entire life since I was 7, I always dream to be a paediatrician. Im quite a good student. Never failed in any subjects. Always in the top 20 in my school from primary school until high school...Im always confident that being a doctor is what I want. In my country, my class in high school is a science stream major. But then..when I was 16 or 17, I realised that I like writing and English so much, that makes me change my dream. I decided to be a teacher. After high school and final exam ended. I got a very good result. Most of my grade for science related subject is good too. But..I realised that my English and other subject that non science which is 6 out of 11 subjects( 5 subjects related to science) all of them got the highest grade. Im convinced that Im not made to be a doctor but a teacher. I applied for a college programmed specialised in teaching. I passed the physical exam, and even called for the interview. But I dont made it. Most of us girls dont made it. Only boys.

I decided to enter a pre University programme which is in my country the certificate is the same level as diploma. BUT, they not specify into one path. After the diploma, we can choose to further our studies for undergraduates study.

I decided to enter that programme because after I find out that I dont made it into the teaching college..I feel like Im quite lost. Although Im also got an offer for foundation studies in engineering and an offer for matriculation school..I feel like it is not my things. Sometimes Im doubting myself too because I got 2 offer for furthering my studies in science major.

So..when I entered the pre Uni programme, I choose class which is really far from the science stream which are history, geography and advance language( which is my country language). Everything is easy but Im still lost. However, one day, my teacher mentioned about East Asian Studies and Sociology and Anthropology studies and Im very interested in it. Now..Im in my last term of pre Uni programme and Im going to apply for those subject. Besides..I love history and observing people and their behaviour and custom or tradition of any country especially asian country. I still dont know what kind of job I could possibly do with that subject..but at least Im already on the right track. Doing what I want.


If that cant help you..then my sister is almost as same as I. She is a year younger than I, she was also in science stream major. Unlike me, she was forced to take those class not by me or our parents but by the school. Since her result in middle school is good, they want my sister to be in science class. Plus, at that time, the principal is my granduncle..so she kind of had no choice. Her result after the final of high school is fairly good. Not bad but not really good. She really dont know which college she want to go to. In the end, my father told her to take business management studies and she did that. She also like to do business and selling activity since she was young. So..she kind of doing what she wants to do. She seems happy and really doing well in her studies now.

So...I guess, either you try to think what you like or ask people who close to you what the saw in you...what they notice that you like to do just like my sister.
Maybe you could take some online test like personality test or career test or something like that to discover your strength and your specialties. I did that too before Im fully decided to follow my path right now.


And...if you interested in doing something like business, you could try applying for it. You dont need advance math skills or any sort of that. Plus..you can open up business from home and continue being a mom like what you want. Or...maybe early childhood education then..you can open up business of child care at home. Being a mom and earn money too.

I hope I can help you even a little bit. Take a day to ponder on what you want to do and pray!
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