What's love?

Hello hello! Sooooo, welcome to my first ever blog post! I'll try to keep it short and get straight to the point: what is love?

Personally, I don't know what it is, nor what it feels like. I mean, yeah there's love for family and friends but that 'romantic' love... I just don't get it. I often question myself "what is love?" And I think of all the cliche stuffs I've ever read on aff. But is that really love? Or just an overly glorified definition of it? 

Furthermore, what are your opinions on what makes love seem 'realistic' in a work of fiction? Is it the deep description of the feelings (e.g. Like talking about how fast the heart beats, world stopping around you and all that jazz)? The scenario (childhood friends growing up and falling in love, etc.)? The obstacles (cheating, jealousy)? 

I'm asking mostly for story ideas and advice, cuz I really just base my knowledge on cheesy dramas. And also for personal gain, I want other people's thoughts on the subject ^^

 

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Janely167 #1
For me love is when you can't help but think about someone you cherish in a different way from your family & friends. You think about the nervousness of confessing & wanting to know if they also feel the same way about you. Just thinking about telling him/her how you feel makes your heart beat faster & you think about backing out & just not confessing. In my case, my friends told me how I can't hide my feelings that well & they could see that I saw him as more than just a friend. I didn't confess but I don't think what I felt for him was love more like I felt comfortable being with him so much that I confused my feelings of friendship as love. I'm sure that's happened to some people as well. Love is also when you can't help but think about that person day & night. It makes you happy to see them even if it's early in the morning when the last thing you want to do is go to school. Love can also be when they are hurt & you wish you could take away the pain just so they can be happy. You want them to be happy even if it's crushing you to know they are happy but not with you (´・_・`)

Love brings nervousness, happiness, & sadness. Nervousness: when confessing or just realizing the feelings you have for them. Happiness: when you get to see them & spend time with them; just talking about the simplest things makes you happy because you are with him. Sadness: when you think about them rejecting you or liking someone that isn't you. I'm really shy when it comes to speaking about my feelings, so I haven't been in a relationship before, but I have felt nervous talking to the person I like, happy when they make time to talk to me even if it's late at night, & sad when they don't feel the same way about you. That's how I view love is. I hope it helps :)
Monkeii
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Hmm for me, love is different for everyone. Everyone displays it differently and experiences it differently cause with my first love, it was all doki doki heart stuff but with my second current love, it's very relaxed, pure and heart-warming. But I think there's one main point we all share and I'll try describe it...it's like two people running at different paces and speeds yet no matter what, they try to run next to each other. There are times they get tired but break their muscles to keep running next to who they love and there are times they may be too fast for the other person but they can't stop, so they break their leg on purpose to slow down. I know it sounds a bit odd but it's the best way I could describe it--or the best way I could describe me and my lover's relationship (:

Ummm as for the fanfics, I said before that love is different for each person so it really is up to your own personal taste as to how you perceive what situations are "love". As for me, love/relationships mean for effortless effort...like you strive really hard to make that person happy and although people view it as tiring, it's not for you since it's something you really badly want?? Unless you're stuck in some argument and you're trying to make it up to them...that's another story hahaha! Does that make sense ; u; ?

So...I guess situations where I can see a lot of effort and character development shows "love" for me :D

Ok phew! I typed a lot!! I'll shut up now! I hope I made sense and I really hope that helps a bit!! When you experience love tho, really, it's an indescribable feeling. You just know it when it happens :D