I've never had a Best Friend :(
I was watching something tonight about best friends and I came to the realization that I've never had one.
In elementary school, the girl I thought was my best friend always liked other girls better than me. She invited them to parties and outings and I was left out. To me, she was my best friend, but to her, I wasn't even close.
When we went to middle school she completely ignored me and I was left to find another friend. I did find one and we were friends for 14 years. I thought of her as my best friend. We wrote stories together and even fanfictions. We planned on going to college together and being roommates as we studied to be writers. We did go to college together, but we lived at home and carpooled. I soon began to notice she'd invite some of my other friends to things and never even tell me it happened. It bothered me, but I dismissed it.
Then, after we graduated I lost contact with her. I didn't even know she was engaged until another friend told me. That hurt.
What hurt the most was when she planned her wedding and asked every friend we had to be in her wedding, but me. I was the only person in our group to be left out. I was only invited to the bachelorette party because the maid of honor invited me, not her. I left the party early because they whispered behind me the entire time and were planning bride's maid things. She passed out gifts to them and I was the only one who didn't get anything. I wanted to burst out in tears the entire time because the girl I thought was my best friend for 14 years, never was...,
I faked a headache and left. I didn't go to the wedding because I couldn't stand the thought of being the only one sitting in the pews while all my friends stood on stage. I've seen her a few times since then, and she acts as if nothing ever happened. I don't think she even noticed I wasn't at the wedding. I haven't confronted her about it because I hate drama and don't see the point. What could she say? I was the extra friend and she had to make some cuts because the number of groomsmen, so I was out...,
I haven't really had a friend since. That was two years ago.
There were a few people I met online I thought I was making friends with, but even they left me.
I guess I'm just the expendable friend no one really likes that much. They like me when they need something, but then forget about me.
I'm sorry my anxiety causes me to not text of call very often..., I'm sorry if it seems I don't care, when the truth is that I care more than anyone. I care so much that if you called me a 1 am and needed help, I'd be there.
Even when I told my former best friend about my depression and anxiety and that was why I didn't call often, she messaged me a couple times and then disappeared. She seemed really bothered or annoyed when I'd try and ask her for help, or just talk to her about my feelings.
If she was going through something like this, I'd listen to her until she felt better. I'd support her because I care.
But, it doesn't matter now. I have no friends now.
And, I've never had a best friend that felt the same way about me. I'm always the extra friend, the one that gets cut, the one who gets thrown away when she's no longer useful...,
Now.., I'm crying...,
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