My parents have divorced recently. The problem isn't my parents divorcing, but the fact that my dad is now shouting at my mom about some paperwork issues (complicated story) everytime he sees her. While I can understand my mom wanting to hide from my dad, it's getting frustrating. Having to tell her when he leaves, having to keep an eye on the phone for her messages. It's frustrating when I have work to do and she just disrupts my work by suddenly wanting to talk to me, and demanding my full attention. I get that I have to listen, but it's disruptive, and the work is piling up. 

I'll probably tell my dad not to shout at her regarding the issues. What's the point of shouting and insulting her anyway? It wouldn't miraculously solve the problem. Plus it's just creating tension in the family. 

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It's complicated who I side with in the family. Mom says something and I side her, dad says something and I side him. I just prefer not to take sides, as I feel both of them are emotionally manipulative, I know the term sounds crude. But I no longer want to hear sob stories of how pitiful they are, I no longer want to be the person my mom goes to rant about her failed marriage.