This post may contain swearing and will break the cardinal rules of AsianFanfics.  I know that, when I signed up to this site, I agreed only to support gay relationships and only to support popular ships and never to let real relationships exist with idols.  It's in the rules that only certain members were given access to because reasons.  But ... you know, I don't give the furry crack of a rat's behind that I'm breaking these rules.  Ok?  If you will be offended at someone having a different opinion to you, there's the door.  Because I am seriously annoyed at this.  Report this all you want, hell why not find where I live and smash the windows?  Go after me with a good old fashioned lynching.  Hang me in the middle of the city, broadcast it across the world and slaughter me like the blasphemous monster that I am, do whatever you think is right, because I really could not care less.

I get that people are pissed that Kai and Krystal are dating.  I get that you are angry that he didn't individually consult with every one of you.  I get that you are annoyed that he didn't devote his entire life to living to your standards.  I get that you are upset that he now has a relationship of his own choosing and he isn't being sodomised by the rest of EXO on a daily and nightly basis.  I get it.  But why the hell should your ships take presidence over, you know, real life?  If he and Krystal want to be together, then fair play to them.  They love each other, or at the very least they like each other.  They aren't slagging each other off over Twitter, they aren't hating each other on Instagram, they aren't at war with each other in their songs.  They are doing something that we keep saying we want to see more of.

They are showing each other some kind of love and affection, and considering we keep saying there is not enough in this world, I don't see why people are so against it, regardless of who it's between.

But saying your life isn't worth living because Kai and Krystal are dating?  Saying your ships are now dead?

On April 19th 2015, it was confirmed that SNSD's Yuri and baseball player Oh Seung Hwan were in a relationship.  Now, I am a huge Sunny x Yuri shipper.  I mean ... it's in my god damn name!!!!  Not once did I complain that my ship was dead.  Not once did I consider my life over.  Why?

Because Sunny and Yuri are friends.  Good friends.  Probably not best friends, but still good friends.  And friendships never sink.  Ever.

The great ship SunRi, as far as I was concerned, sailed strong and true.

I still loved their interactions together.  I still loved their photos together.  I still wrote about them.  Sunny and Yuri were still together.  They were still able to shower light in my life.

Because they are friends.

My life still continued.  I still shipped Sunny and Yuri.  I still cheered for them.  I still sailed on their ship.

Because I knew that Sunny and Yuri were nothing more than friends.

On 15th October that same year, he and Yuri broke up.  I was sad for Yuri and I hoped that Sunny would be there for her friend.  But my ship never changed during that time.  My love for SunRi never died, never changed, it remained as it does today.

So KaiSoo, SeKai and all of the other Kai ships will continue, because Kai will not suddenly abandon his bandmates for a girl.  He will not leave his friends behind because he is in a relationship.  He just has someone else in his heart as a romantic partner.  You don't have to like the relationship.  You don't have to support them.  You don't have to have a huge party in their honour.

But don't turn around and say your life is over, for God sake!!!  If you can't support his opnion, if you can't support his choices, I would hate to see how you are in a real relationship if your partner does something off their own back, because they want to.  Kai and Krystal are not hurting you by being in love.  Kai and Krystal are happy being in a relationship.  YOU are the person that is hurting yourself because YOU said that the only person he can be with is the other person in your chosen ship.  You didn't think that your ship might not happen in the romantic manner you long for.  Kai and Krystal are together.  There's nothing you can do about it.  Celebrate your ship just as you would normally, but accept that your dream of your ship gettng married and having a trillion beautiful babies is just not going to happen.

Put yourself in their shoes: How would you feel if me and hundreds of other people took to AFF, Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, whatever networks you use and slandered and blasted you and your partner because we just didn't ship you together?  Would you ignore us?  Would you listen?  Would you be happy?  Would you be hurt?  I'm guessing it'd hurt like hell.  One or two people, you could handle.  But hundreds?  Well, that's all Kai and Krystal get to see now.  Because you're not happy with their choice of partner.  So think how you would feel if you had to face the barage of hate they will no doubt get because they love each other.  Think how you would feel if you had to face a tenth of that.  Because a tenth of that is still hundreds of people, thousands of comments about that.  You would eternally question whether you actually deserve to be loved if all you see is people telling you that your love was wrong.  I'm worried that Kai might wonder if he deserves to live.  He's happy.  She's happy.  Let them be.

To those that do ship Kai and Krystal, then also, you need to accept that Krystal isn't going to have a trillion beautiful babies.  Marriage, maybe.  Children, possibly, but a trillion?  Uh, no.  Ok?  But I hope you will still be happy for them if they break up.  They loved.  It didn't work out.  They tried.  Their lives are different to ours.

Also, if your personal happiness is solely dependant on the happiness of your idols, then you really need to quickly adjust your priorities in life.  There is more to life than KPop.  There is more to my life than SNSD.  If SNSD break up, that's too bad.  My friend is a crazy EXO fan and she thinks the same.  She's gone through three members leaving and she still supports them and she supports their individual activities too.  She has no hate for any of them.  Unnecessary hate over issues like this uses too much energy.  Please ... learn now before it's too late.  Use your energy wisely.  Hate, but make it about things that are crucial to life.  Hate that there are wars in the world.  Hate that there is ism, racism, homophobia, Islamophobia and inequality in the world.  Hate that people are scared to walk out of their own front doors, or they have to tuck penknives into their hair or their pockets becuase they don't feel safe on the streets.  Hate that people are being persecuted simply because they don't believe in the same kind of God that others do.  Hate that gay people are being told they can't marry and show love to someone special to them, that people are being told they can't love the person they choose to love because of someone else's dictatorial reasons.

Wait ... that last one sounds familiar ......... where have I heard of people hating on couples because they don't fit their attackers self-imposed idea of what a couple  involving one or more of the victims should look like?