written in collaboration with a special friend <3

warnings: a satirical and potty-mouthed blogpost about what humans choose to care about + writing in general (not pointing out people) + (but still) might be offensive (to some) _⁽˙³˙⁾

The true problem with us, humans, is that

we give way too many s.

We give too many s about how people think of what we are wearing,

We give too many s about how people think of the way we talk,

We give too many s about Baekhyun possibly being a straight guy (or not) and/or dating someone or if the dating was real in the first place,

We give too many s about Kyungsoo's dating scandals,

We give too many s about the love-life of a certain dragon leader of a famous kpop group,

We give too many s about Taeyang's mohawk hairstyle and his shirts disappearing in almost every concert,

We give too many s about TOP's skin that gets exposed to the public only once in a blue moon,

We give too many s about a member having more parts in a song than others,

We give too many s about this member who jokes/talks a lot, catches more attention and joins more variety shows than her/his fellow members,

We give too many s about a certain idol who leaves his group,

We give too many s about the difference between how this particular idol left his group and the other two members who left as well,

We give too many s about a group winning over our bias group,

We give too many s about a new member joining a group we like because we like the group as it is already,

We give too many s about writers who get more attention than others,

We give too many s about writers locking their stories to 'subscribers-only',

We give too many s about a famous writer who doesn't have the attitude most people prefer,

We give too many s about writers not updating often,

We give too many s about the character in a story that we don't fancy,

We give too many s about a writer's style in writing,

We give too many s about the plot of the fictional story we're reading,

We give too many s about the ending of the story we're reading,

We give too many s about the layout of our stories,

We give too many s about not winning a bid on asianfanfics,

We give too many s about having more followings than followers on both twitter and instagram,

We give too many s about the number of reblogs/retweets on our tumblr and twitter,

WE GIVE. TOO. MANY. S.

That's the problem.

You see, giving a about things is nice; your s might be necessary for that 'thing'.

But that doesn't mean you have to give all your s away like it's a coupon or a paper ad that the employees sometimes have to sort to pleading for people to accept it because they can't go home unless they've given all those papers out.

You shouldn't treat your precious s like that. No.

You see, the amount of s you have is limited; therefore, it shall be given away when the 'thing' we want to donate our to is truly worthy.

When something caught your attention and is tempting you to give your out, you should pause and try to analyze the situation. Ask yourself a question: Is this thing worthy? And how many of my s shall I give away? That member you dislike the most in a girl group got into another scandal about her 'possible' nose-job? That isn't even worth any of your precious s! You've already read about it; that itself is giving like a one-fourth of a so just ignore it. Ignore. She did her nose? So? Is it going to affect your life? Are you going to ace your test the next day because her dirty little secret is out? No. See? This is just like one of those trivial s I listed above that doesn't even deserve even one of your limited s. So instead of pouring your s out to her as you comment and hate more about her nose, why don't you just focus on the more worthy things? Like your room that looks as if a tsunami wave just passed by, or your upcoming test? That is worthy.

There are too many things in life that we need to legitimately give a about and those trivial things like that ones I listed above aren’t one. Now I’m not going to say that I am not one of those who give too much s about things. Some of the things I listed above are things I can very much relate to.

I remember giving too many s about G-Dragon dating Kiko that I even researched about her life and if she’s fit to be G-dragon’s wife. At the end of the day, I found out things about her that I don’t exactly like, but that doesn’t mean she’s a bad person or that she isn’t fit to be G-dragon’s lover. But you know what? All of my research doesn’t matter. G-dragon’s not going to hear what my opinions are; he’s going to love her if he does, then break up with her if the time comes to that (which already did, I assume), then maybe even go back and then break up and then– yeah. My point is that it’s not something that concerns me; why should I spend my entire day researching about her when it wouldn’t affect my life anyway?

I remember (silently) crying in the middle of our class (with all the dramatic wiping of tears that won’t stop streaming down my cheeks as I try to read the things on our whiteboard, but can’t because my vision’s too blurry from all the tears) when Wu Yifan left EXO. Feeling sad about it is okay (it's a natural human reaction to sadness or loss), but crying like someone died (even after class) was not okay. My classmates kept staring at me and thought someone from my family really died. Kris wasn’t even my bias; I just really like EXO as a whole. Nevertheless, that was way too many s I gave away. Way. Too. Much.

Giving too many s is an illness I acquired after a series unfortunate events happened to me. I hated this about myself.  It makes me really sad, makes my nights sleepless and distracts me from things I need to actually give a about. When I realized this, I began to question myself and started to analyze things before giving away my precious s. I haven’t fully mastered the subtle art of not giving s but I’m progressing, and that’s better than giving way too many s about things that aren’t even worthy.

By the time Luhan left EXO, I’ve already kind of started giving away limited amount of s about things. I felt sad deep inside, but this time, I didn’t cry like someone died. This doesn’t mean I love him less than Kris. Luhan was (is still) my third bias in EXO. Kris is ranked somewhere only I know. Instead of spending the whole night crying over Luhan, I just (sadly) smiled and wished him well whatever path he choose. It’s not like he’s going somewhere we can’t see him. He’s Luhan after all. I spent that day normally at school; my friends kept looking at me in worry because they knew about the news and how attached I am to EXO. They didn’t see me cry, but they didn’t feel the sinking feeling in my chest either. I was sad but that was enough s given. I love Lu Han, he’s going to do well and I, on the other hand, need to study for my future. That’s it. The same happened when Tao left. I didn’t give too many s, I wished him well and moved on with my life. Because they, also, will obviously move on and they won’t even notice the amount of s I’ve given away for them.

Not giving a is not the same as being indifferen, though. Being indifferent takes away an important quality as a human. As Mark Manson coined, "There’s absolutely nothing admirable or confident about indifference. People who are indifferent are lame and scared. They’re couch potatoes and internet trolls. In fact, indifferent people often attempt to be indifferent because in reality they actually give too many s. They are afraid of the world and the repercussions of their own choices. Therefore, they make none. They hide in a grey emotionless pit of their own making, self-absorbed and self-pitied, perpetually distracting themselves from this unfortunate thing demanding their time and energy called life."

Let me quote more from him because he's ing awesome.

"In life, our s must be spent on something. There really is no such thing as not giving a . The question is simply how we each choose to allot our s. You only get a limited number of s to give over your lifetime, so you must spend them with care. As my father used to say, “s don’t grow on trees, Mark.” OK, he never actually said that. But it, pretend like he did. The point is that s have to be earned and then invested wisely. s are cultivated like a beautiful ing garden, where if you up and the s get ed, then you’ve ing ed your s all the up."

"Indeed, the ability to reserve our s for only the most worthy of situations would surely make life a hell of a lot easier. Failure would be less terrifying. Rejection less painful. Unpleasant necessities more pleasant and the unsavory sandwiches a little bit more savory. I mean, if we could only give a few less s, or a few more consciously-directed s, then life would feel pretty ing easy."

So, yeah. Humans, don't give way too many s. 

Spend them wisely. Help yourself and make your life feel pretty ing easy. 

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