Please Give Adive. I'm Desperate. It's Eating Me Away! HELP!

(Btw, I'd like to congrats myself for being a man and finally tell my vows to my beautiful 5 year long girlfriend!!  Can't believe I just got married two weeks ago!! I'm the real MVP)

Alright serious story time. I've only had three girlfriends in my life. My first love died in an accident(even though I was only 14, to this day, it hurts to know she's gones. To me, it's as if she had just left yesterday). And then my second one dumped me for another. And now my third is now my wifey!

My second ex-girlfriend (known as A) and I broke up a few years ago. On my wedding rehearsal, my best friend thought it'd be great if he brought her. I wanted to punch him. When she was here, I could see she was really pissed(sorry for language) and jealous. With her visiting, she and my girlfriend(or wifey now) got into a heated arguement. Arguments were turned into big fights. My best friends and I had to split them. When we let them simmer down a bit, A had to talk in private with me. She confessed that she loved and missed me. I didn't know what to say. I just told her I didn't love her anymore. Two weeks after the wedding had ended, and she came back today to explain to me how sorry she was to make the mistake of letting me go. Now I'm just going to get to the point here. She kissed me, but I pushed her away. How do I tell my wife? I wanna tell her because it's eating me away. I DON'T LIKE TO TELL LIES TO MY LOVE! But my friends say don't or else I'll just cause a bigger issue. But if I don't, I'm going to be a terrible husband for not having and being honest. And the lose my wifey! So how should I tell her?

Also, a teen friend of mine, who is a lesbian, can't figure out how to come out to her parents. She's a butch lesbian (a lesbian who looks like a guy) and yet her parents don't see that she likes girls. Yes, it's ridiculous that they don't see it. And yes, she should've explained to them who she really is but she's the type who doesn't like to figure out and do things on her own. Any ideas on how to come out? 

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neoo_16 #1
You should tell your wife. Explain to her. If she really loves and trust you she'll understand. You did nothing wrong anyway and it's better if she knew it from you. If your ex really wants you back she might tell it to your wife or worse make up stories. Love, trust, honesty and understanding..those are what a good relationship has.

About your friend..tell her to just come out. Tell her parents she's gay. She's not just lying to her parents but also to herself. Parents love their child. They'll accept her. My parents accepted me when I told them I'm biual. We got a problem at first but it's normal. Later on they fully accepted me. Don't be scared to show everyone who you really are.
cooliecoolie #2
Why tell your wife when you can keep it a secret? As a matter of fact, you did nothing wrong. There are things that your wife should know and should not know about you.
Yuyenn #3
Tell your wife. It's better to tell her the truth then lie to her and if you get caught she might feel like you don't trust her. Don't go back to A. If she had loved you after all she wouldn't even have left you, more or less, dumped you. She's super likely to just be jealous that she can't have you anymore and that she won't have your attention because your now married to a beautiful woman who deserves you more than she does.
JaoMing #4
I think you should just be honest with your wife and tell her exactly what happened. Better she hears it from you than from someone else. Also tell her what your ex-girlfriend confessed to you so that she'll know that you aren't going to hide anything from her.

And to your friend, "coming out" isn't necessary unless she sees it as such. If it's going to get her kicked out, then she shouldn't.... Otherwise, I'd recommend that she speaks with one parent at a time. The possibly more supportive one first

All the best :)
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