I think this is pretty typical for asian parents, especially the older generations. I feel like men in asian families care but they don't sit down and talk with their children about hardships, emotions, etc. It's like they think it's not appropriate to show feelings and give emotional support because they have to act tough all the time and thus, this kind of puts a strain on relationships nowadays because we've transitioned from a society that was strict to more open. My mother is more lenient and understands the shift thankfully. She listens to me and I think it's because I've opened up to her a lot when I was younger. I've cried in front of her, let my feelings out, and it's made me really close to her.

I actually cried today for the similar reason.usual. my dad doesn't care bout me. I mean yea he does but from my point he looks like he's only torchuring me for studies and I'm not able to focus because of him and stress. My mom doesn't help either.

i am under a traditionalist family, but not to that extent that violence is actually being tolerated. that is so wrong in my opinion :( sure, my actions are judged, my decisions are not completely by myself but mostly of my parents, my belongings are earned from my academic hardships, the pressures I feel not to create mistakes that would be frowned upon by my parents are above average ---nothing is literally free in my overstrict family, democracy is not in their vocabulary, so, yes, I do cry sometimes with the way I was disciplined in life, even if I know to myself I do not deserve that kind of mistreatment. i also find it unfair sometimes, but at this point, i just live my life as long as i achieve my dream. my parents never changed, they just lessen their criticisms the older i get, but i know, the pressure is still there, that's why i can never call myself a papa or mama's girl, just because, i am not close with them to the point that i would open up my problems to them :( there never was a strong bond in my family, we kind of just live together just because we're living in the same roof. so yeah, it's ed up, i know, but i'm just living with it. it is exaggeration sometimes, because we do get along quite well plenty of times, however, nope, i'm still controlled at the end of the day. stay strong, friend!

I have a friend that suffers from the same problem. I myself do not experience this because my parents are not that kind of people, luckily for me. My friend, however, is a female, despite being a firstborn and now fully grown up with full time job, is still living with her parents. She isn't allowed to go anywhere without her mother's permission, no staying over unless her mother knows the friend she stays with beforehand, she has curfew. Even though she is just hanging out with a friend (me, for example), her mother will begin to protest if she does not come home around 6 pm, even though she has told her where she is. Her mother still nags about clothes she wears, makeup she chooses. My friend said it herself that as long as she lives with her parents, she lives under their rules, no matter how old she is. I honestly can't stand such people because I am used to get things done my way and my family has always been very supportive towards my decisions and open to discussion if my choice is a bit extreme or seems off. I know how strict Asian parents could be and how the discipline creates gap between parents and children so that children can't get emotional support fully (they don't even feel brave enough to initiate discussion, especially about grades and difficulties at school).